help me im so conf. We have been together about 6 months now a month ago i found a condom rapper at his house on the bed and i didnt get mad just hurt and quiet and gave him time to explain he said its not what you think (we went out for dinner then we went to his house and bam there it was) well after a few min. of no talking he tossed a porno at me and said he jacked off to this ok it took a bit for me (a few days) to sort it out and im still not over it anyway i let him know how it made me feel not sure if the worse part was the doubt or that he was doing it with a porno i felt like he wasnt attracted to me because he had to have a porno by the way we work totally oposite scheduals and that def. dont help none. we decided before all this to move in together maybe that would help and he is getting on days so we can be together at night so on with the issue i came home from work today and there is lube in the bathroom i cant help but to be upset what the heck is going on its not like im fat or anything is this normalhe also has lots of precum and i did some search on net and i belive if i am reading right it can be caused from to much masterbation can anyone help me and explain what is going on and help me deal with this I dont mean to be a insecure with myself but this is what is happening any ideas how to help me understand
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seriously, relax. hes just masturbating it doesnt mean he doesnt want you it just might mean that you two, if your having sex, dont have enough time to sate his libido every time the need arises and if he needs to rub one or a couple out when you arent there or arent in the mood you really have no business having a problem with it. now if you catch him every time he masturbates and throw yourself at him and he rejects you then yes theres a problem but apparently that hasnt happened. as for the porno, its just porno.it doesnt mean he wants other women or finds you unattractive. maybe (if you two are having sex) you could snap a few racy photos of yourself and leave them in his magazine just as a nice surprise
He's a man, he masturbates. It's perfectly normal. The porn, the lube, the condom, it's all a part of a man's sexual lifestyle.There's no reason to so feel bad about that. And I don't believe he looks at porn because you're not attractive. He does so because he's most likely a visual type of person, just like most men. You have to learn to not be so insecure about the porn and understand that everything else is a part of being a male. Quote:he also has lots of precum and i did some search on net and i belive if i am reading right it can be caused from to much masterbationThat's wrong. Precum secretes when a man is aroused and it's not caused by masturbation.
i do know that it is normal dont have a problem with it we dont spend alot of time together just ALL me I am 33 and honestly this is the first time in my life I have truly LOVED someone I know it sounds crazy but I never have let someone get close to me and now I guess I worry things are going wrong it could be worse he could be cheating and I do know this I hope that it will get better when we at least get to see each other. all of my life all I have had is my son and it was always enough in my life to take care of him and work ect... now that this special guy has came along maybe im just looking for something to go wrong I try to tell myself it will be ok but it just isnt working
look honestly, if ur feeling so bad about him masturbating... have sex with him as much as u can, even if its just a quicky...
but it doesnt matter... its just jerking off, now if u find a tape of him having sex with a girl... then worry...
but sincerely if i was him, all i'd want is for u to fuck me...
even if im asleep, if u have the time, and i wasnt exhausted, then i'd want u to fuck me...
What he's doing is not abnormal. He's a guy it's what we do. I don't remember what comic said it but no truer phrase has ever been spoken. He said, "Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place." That applies to masturbation too. It's part of who we are, it's there, easy to get to, so... why not.
I'm happily married, have an active and fulfilling sex life but that doesn't stop me from bangin' the bishop. Hell, I still jack it about once a day... unless I'm sleepy. It's nice to love thy self. With sex, while it is better than beating it, you gotta worry about pleasing her... was I good enough... did she enjoy it... I just wanna go to sleep, I don't wanna talk or cuddle... etc, etc. (I know, I know. I'm the last true romantic. :grin:) With masturbation it's just a quick enjoyment of orgasm without all the complications. It's not as fulfilling but as long as your finding fulfillment elsewhere it's good.
There's just no reason not to do it. I don't have any plans to stop anyway.
Quote: (I know, I know. I'm the last true romantic.) ay bruh!!! what about me!!! im a romantic to... under all this manlyness...