Well if you haven't watched porn then you've been reading up magazines or something.But you can save your stories/fantsies for elsewhere.
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Virgin On Nonvirgin Hardcore Action
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Well, of course there's all that stuff and you're good with words, but it's really not exactly the same. It's kinda like watching a sports game or concert on tv. It's much more better being there live rather than watching it.Being nervous or unsure in a new situation is natural. You can read about it or watching videos about it, but it's different when you've never actually done it before.Here's another bad example: You can read about pianos and how to read music. You can watch endless amount on piano concertos. But when you're put in front of a piano, I can bet a million dollars you won't be able to play a simple melody.Have I confused you yet?
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This has actually gotten way off track of what I originally intended. What I meant by my question was not if it made you uncomfortable being with someone who has had sex because apparently they "know" how to have sex and you don't (which doesn't make sense to me, either because maybe I won't be able to make sense of such a concept until I have sex or maybe it's rendered invalid because of other concepts I already have).Rather, if you're not hurt by the fact that your partner has had sex with people BEFORE your relationship, then why are you hurt by your partner having sex with other people DURING your relationship?And if you are hurt by both your partner having sex DURING your relationship and BEFORE your relationship, why are you hurt by BEFORE?
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Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarWell, of course there's all that stuff and you're good with words, but it's really not exactly the same. It's kinda like watching a sports game or concert on tv. It's much more better being there live rather than watching it.Being nervous or unsure in a new situation is natural. You can read about it or watching videos about it, but it's different when you've never actually done it before.Here's another bad example: You can read about pianos and how to read music. You can watch endless amount on piano concertos. But when you're put in front of a piano, I can bet a million dollars you won't be able to play a simple melody.Have I confused you yet? Thanks, you're very helping and you make a lot of sense. Don't worry it's not confusing. I've actually written several articles on virginity, I'd like your opinion on them! :-)What does it mean to be virgin? People have different views when it comes to virginity. It's generally believed that to have penile-vaginal intercourse would take away your virginity. Why does it have to be set at penile-vaginal intercourse? Is that because it's considered to be the most intimate and satisfying sexual act? Some people consider triple penetration to be the most intimate and satsifying sexual act. So even if I've had penile-vaginal intercourse, maybe I could still consider myself a virgin if I've never been triple penetrated. Some people also consider oral sex more intimate and satisfying that penile-vaginal intercourse. In which case, all of you who've halted going beyond sucking genitals so you can still have the label of a "virgin", that might not save you anymore. Actually, you know what I'll do, let's get a definition of virgin, that might help us. Merriam-Webster's 11th Collegiate Dictionary defines virgin as "a person who is inexperienced in a usually specified sphere of activity". So if the specified sphere of activity is sexuality, and you are inexperienced at it, that could give way to an even harsher definition. Maybe just experiencing an orgasm could mean you've lost your sexual virginity. After all, an orgasm is the plateau of sexual excitement, once you've experienced that, I don't think you're much of a virgin to sexuality anymore. In which case, I lost my virginity at the age of 4! My point of all this is simply that people generally put way too much of an emphasis on virginity when it's really not that big of a deal.In America, there are a lot of people who prefer having sexual encounters with virgins. Why does it matter? What if you've played tag before, and you've played tag with your friend Jack, and Jack has also played tag with Jill, but you've never played tag with Jill. Even though both you and Jill have played tag before, you've never played it with each other, you are both virgin to playing tag with each other. My point is, everyone is different with sex, whoever you have sex with, it's always going to be a new experience with each person you have sex with, just as it's a new experience with each person you play tag with. Besides, where do you draw the line on how virgin they have to be. What if she's never had oral sex, anal sex, nor genital sex before, but she's masturbated to orgasm. She's already experienced orgasm, are you really going to be sad that you couldn't be the first person to help her experience orgasm? Why would it matter? I say good for her for being able to please herself and being the first to give herself an orgasm.A lot of people think the first time having sex is going to be the most amazing experience in their lives. I think it's best if I ruin the surprise for you now, that way you won't be sorely disappointed when the time comes. This is what the first time having sex is like. First, the boy sticks his wiener in the girl's vagina. Unfortunately, it turns out the girl's hymen hadn't defused, probably because she was lazy for most of her life, so the boy's penis painfully tears the girl's hymen apart causing her to bleed. Then the boy orgasms in only 2 minutes. So the girl's all crying because her hymen is broken and hurting and the boy's all crying because he really wanted sex to be a special and lasting experience for the both of them. So they cry each other to sleep, vowing vengeance to all of society's and religion's contributions to the myths of sex and sexuality. There's good news though. It's not like sex has to continue to be that way. Just as you don't expect to be an expert juggler the first time you try to cascade 3 clubs, why would you expect to be an expert sexpert the first time you have sex? And don't think masturbation mastery will make a significant difference to your sexual performance. Switching from a solo performance to a team performance is a whole different game.
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I highly doubt this person is a serious poster. He's probably just trying to have a laugh.
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I think it's both, Cider. There's deliberate humour and poking of fun there, but also serious questioning. My experience of jamesters is that he has a mind that questions everything, and rejects the comfort of travelling down the well-worn social grooves. Sometimes the poking fun runs away with him, though.
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Originally Posted By: CiderI highly doubt this person is a serious poster. He's probably just trying to have a laugh.Ineligible can confirm my legitimacy. He's known me for a long time and he's a moderator here so you can probably have quite a bit of trust in him.I'm a unique person, to put it lightly, but I'm amazingly genuine, and I'm just trying to understand.EDIT: Ahaha, Ineligible, I posted this right before I even saw you post!
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His contradictory statements seem to lead me to believe that there isn't serious questioning. He says what sex is like but he also says that he hasn't experienced it. If there is questioning, it's fairly poorly-based -- at least in this situation.
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Rather, if you're not hurt by the fact that your partner has had sex with people BEFORE your relationship, then why are you hurt by your partner having sex with other people DURING your relationship? That's a rather absurd question don't you think? Unless I am looking for a chaste virgin to be my partner, I should have no qualms about prior relationships. When they are with me, we both excpect an exclusive partnership. If we are swingers or don't mind sharing then this is all a moot point.
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Originally Posted By: jamesters Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarAlmost two and a half years ago, I met my current boyfriend. I had no experience in sexual activity and he was the complete opposite. It didn't really affect me much except it did make me a bit nervous. If this relationship was going to go that route, naturally I'd be nervous because I'd have no idea what to do.How could you not know what to do? I have had little to no sexual encounters with other people but I don't think it'd be that difficult to understand.First, you get naked in front of each other. Then you start making out and sucking on each others tongues. While you're making out, he'll likely get an erection then you engulf his penis with yourned vagina and start thrusting up and down. Then he'll start fondling your breasts and sucking on your nipples. While he does so, you move your hand down and start rubbing yourned clitoris. You orgasm soon after that. After you orgasm, you release his penis from your vagina and then you start sucking his wiener. While you suck his wiener, you reach up and play around with nipples. If you feel daring, you'll try to slide a finger inside of his bum. It might seem kind of gross for some people to think about, but you'll be so aroused at this time you don't even care anymore. You're not sure if he'll like it or not, so you'll glance at his face to see how he responds. If he shows pleasure, you'll go along with it, if not, you'll just move to his testis and start playing around with those. Pretty soon he's ready to orgasm and then he ejaculates all over your abs. Then you both finish off with another short but sweet hardcore make out session. That's sex?I thought it was laying on your back falling asleep waiting for him to be done!Just kidding :]
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ROFLand doesnt he pass out on top of you afterwards?
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Originally Posted By: sdp Rather, if you're not hurt by the fact that your partner has had sex with people BEFORE your relationship, then why are you hurt by your partner having sex with other people DURING your relationship? That's a rather absurd question don't you think? Unless I am looking for a chaste virgin to be my partner, I should have no qualms about prior relationships. When they are with me, we both excpect an exclusive partnership. If we are swingers or don't mind sharing then this is all a moot point. Why would you want to be in an exclusive relationship rather than a swinger?
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Why would you want to be a swinger rather than be in an exclusive relationship? It's something that each person must ask themselves what they'd rather be happier with.
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Originally Posted By: sdpI should have no qualms about prior relationships.You see, I was raised to believe that anyone who has had a sexual encounter with someone is evil and worthless and they'll never be able to love you completely, for they've already loved someone before and they can't love you as good as the first, nor will you be able to love that person completely, for they already loved someone before and your love won't be as good as the first.So I wonder if, subconsciously, such hardwired higher order memes might affect me. I worry I might feel she's evil, worthless, unloving, and unlovable.I was psychologically abused as a child.
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Quote: that was an odd read.I couldn't even read it.. I was like "OMG" and giggled!!That is not what a sexual encounter is for me..its like.. 5 minutes of foreplay.. bang bang bang BANG BANG BANG BANG BANG.. siggggggggh of satisfaction "THANKS BABY!!!!"
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LOL!!wow 5 minutes huh? congrats! its only two for me! then my batteries die!
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lmao. Im lucky if i get more than 30 seconds of attention before "are u ready?""UMMMMMM NO!"
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ROFL!!
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sometimes i get sooo frustrated. Im like "I JUST WANT TO CUM!!!" "WHY CANT WE JUST HAVE MORE FOREPLAY!!" "WHY CANT YOU JUST FOCUS ON ME SOMETIMES!!"It's alwaaaaays about him.Sometimes I just get up and put my clothes on i get so frustrated. Im like "FORGET IT!!"hes like uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..
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Yeah I hate how guys think sex is all about them. I make him satisfy me first then he gets his turn other wise I'd fall asleep.
My sex is like me just lying on the bed watching tv and him yelling "MY PARENTS JUST LEFT LETS GO!!!"
I wish his parents would never leave, his dads hott
God I'm so pathetic lol