Hi all,It's been a long time but recently somethings popped up with my girlfriend. We've been together for 15 months now and I absolutely love her to bits, more than I've loved anyone else. But thats why I'm a bit worried that she wants to take pills to stop her being nervous. I'll explain.Since we've been together she has always felt nervous and uncomfortable about people having sex in films etc.(This goes back to when she was with her first boyfriend and he used to make her watch it and tell he she should be like that). She feels that this is unfair on me as we can only watch films without sex in it so she doesn't feel uncomfortable. I have no problem with it though I feel bad every time I pick out a film and half way through I find theres a really pervy scene as its me who chose it.The other day she said she wanted to start taking mild sedatives to relaxe her and help her deal with her nervousness. I've talked to her about the fact that I'm worried about her taking meds for it and I wouldn't want her to become dependent or addicted to these pills. Like as she said, she's 'tried everything' so if these do work she wont want to stop taking them. Or over time if they dont have the same effects then she may want to try stronger stuff.I just wanted to know if there are any ideas out there about how she could deal with her nervousness without using pills or medication?I really hope theres someone out there who can help as I really dont want her to change because of medication to stop her being nervous.CheersHawk
Are meds the best way to stop being nervous?
Various forms of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy have been used for mild anxiety problems, and may be well worth trying.
For more severe cases medication may be the best treatment. The traditional benzodiazepines are very effective but do have problems with habituation, tolerance, addiction, and withdrawal difficulties. They are best reserved for occasional use only, such as for an unusually severe attack. It is more common now to use antidepressants as the first-line medication. Buspirone is also good.