have you ever had conflicting feelings? How do you know witch one to listen too /do?
making this clear it's not peer pressure. it's just like making a hard decision.
Conflicting feelings
have you ever had conflicting feelings? How do you know witch one to listen too /do?
making this clear it's not peer pressure. it's just like making a hard decision.
Do which ever one is better for YOU.
id say go for the one that you think is best and the one you really want. That hasn't steered me wrong yet; with mine, its deciding to buy this or that, and then i buy what i need sooner, or what i think i need, then i wait to buy the other, even if its important, it probably can wait. Do what YOU think is best.
One thing that I find helpful as a general principle in difficult decisions is that if it's very hard to decide between two options, then both options, at the time of decision, are about equally good and it doesn't matter which you choose.Of course in time it often becomes clear that one option is much better than the other, but no-one can be expected to see into the future.
Try to decide where each option is coming from (out of good intentions, selfish intentions, etc). Also, you can try to talk out the problem and ask for advice from someone close to you. That usually always helps me, even if I don't end up choosing their advice.
I would say not to let your feeling rule you. Seek your feelings for intuitive council but beyond that let rational reason be your guild.
Try to step back or outside yourself and look at the question at hand from a new perspective. Many times the decisions we make are to informed by our own presumptions and prejudices and attempting to come to a conclusion from outside the situation provides reason more weight, hopefully resulting in a more rational decision.
...or you could just flip a coin and probably have about the same rate of success. :wink:
I have a weird take on this. I think you should acknowledge and honor both feelings. If we're talking about feelings. If they're there, they're there for a reason. Maybe if you're confused about something, like a decision, the best way to start getting clarity is to acknowledge and feel the conflicting emotions. What are you happy about? Sit in that for a bit. What are you sad/afraid about? Sit in that for a bit. Investigate the feelings. Both of them.
Once you've done that, you can look beyond the feelings to the situation at hand and make a good decision based on things a whole lot more reliable than feelings.
iinliguble knows what i'm talking about. It's fear that's holding me back. the fear is basically feeding both sides. fear of what could happen. i feel i did this i could help some one in some way. but i also don't know how it will be taken. yea.....well i have baout decided it don't matter anyway and to hell with it. thanks everyone tho Quote: What are you happy about? that for a long time i been doing good and i thinks shit is turnning around for me. like all those years of beign told, it gets better.. i'm seeing it has / is. Quote: What are you sad/afraid about i'm not sad.. i'm afraid. scared of how it be took, scared of what could come from it, scared that i'm not ready as much as i think i am. i don;t want to be took out of this goodness happing now. i don;t want to make myself go down again.