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But words have power. It's not really a matter of someone hurting you over and over. It only takes one word to knock someone down.

That's true, and if the same word is repeated over and over it hits harder and harder.

That's true, but in my opinion, words only have power if you give them power.Whatever nasty word they use on you, you have to believe it's not true. You know yourself better than anyone. You know who you are and what you are not. It's only when you start to doubt yourself and believe these words when people really get you. Don't let them win.

And what if it is true?

Quote:That's true, and if the same word is repeated over and over it hits harder and harder.And it's frustrating that this doesn't work inversely.Calling someone fat and stupid over and over can kill them, where as calling someone beautiful and fun seems to work exponentially less until it hits almost 0. Alors, c'est la vie.

So what if it is?No one's perfect and that's fine. Accept and love yourself for who you are. But if there's something that bothers you or makes you unhappy, then try to change it. Don't change for someone else because they made a comment.For me, I know I'm nice and I have a talent in music. But at the same time, I'm very obnoxious and I doubt myself a lot. I can't change the obnoxious part because, well, I just don't want to. But I am trying to help myself realize the positive things about myself by talking to a counselor. And lucky for me, it's working.From what I've seen, you have the most energetic spirit around here and bring such a positive energy. I believe that and you should too!

I agree, finding happiness and the cruelty of others is all centred around power. You can have power in yourself in being able to stand on your own two feet or people could try to gain power with the little they have by being cruel. But I think it’s the hardest thing to learn, to deal with other peoples cruelty, especially since it’s hard sometimes to not absorb what people say or do, but that’s when I come on this website and I know people will listen to me. Thank you all from A2A

Originally Posted By: JapanFan14what do you think fuels the rage and anger behind what they say and do? In addition to what Pepsi said, I think it depends on what kind of cruelty your talking about. One on one cruelty, I think has to do with a lack of empathy. There are lots of people who just can't put themselves in the situation of another. Then there are a lot of people who hate parts of themselves and when they see that in others the lash out against them.Probably the greatest most general reason for cruelty is, for better or worse, because it's part of how we build our own social alliances. To build the strength of our own friendships we often try to find others to shun out of our group that we can then chastise together.Groups of friends don't typically sit around talking about little Becky Bookworm and discuss what a great student she is. Why, because that does little to promote the bond of the group they're apart of. A far stronger bond seems to be built when chastising Becky Bookworm as a nerd, dork, a thing of ridicule. As the dislike for Becky grows so to does the strength of the bonds within the group. Then sometimes all the dislike turns to hatred and before you know it we see Becky getting the shit beat out of her by 12 other girls on YouTube.The phenomenon of building connections by shared hates is not limited to small groups of friends either. It applies to schools, political parties and even nations. The most interesting part of this, to me, is that in the absence of a focus of hate these groups will often turn on themselves. They will find a member of their own group to expel and become the object of their ridicule. Now that Becky Bookworm is gone and the group is lacking in an object to hate and build the strength of their bonds over, the group will take Salty Sally, a member of their own clique, and expel her from the group so she is made the object of ridicule. Again this same phenomenon is see in schools, political parties and nations.

I understand you but let me trying being more specific so you'll know.. a little

let's say a group of people who eat vanilla hates another group of people who eat chocolate. there's been a raging battle of everything going on. and even though they have nothing to do with it, chocolate eating friends of the vanilla group are basically being treated like crap by the vanilla eating group just because they eat chocolate, and yet they are supposedly friends. you get what I'm saying?

the chocolate eaters don't have a choice of being chocolate eaters. they were born to eat chocolate. yet the vanilla eaters are separating themselves from their chocolate eating friends. and vice versa. why would they do that? it makes no sense.

I don't know if you can take me seriously with my metaphor lol

I kinda get it. Sounds harsh

Also it kinda makes me want to eat neopolitan icecream

People who are in a group are too afraid to break away and be a standing individual.

doesn't give them a good enough reason to betray their best friends

Since when has humanity embraced reason?Crusades, inquisition, genocide, War, racism, prejudice, discrimination, crime, terrorism, Democrats.To name a few examples (don't kill me, it was a joke)

I'm not too keen on Republicans myself.

Me either. I say they abolish political parties, just like our good friend George Washington suggested.