Girl i like is afraid of getting hurt again...

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Ok, so there's a girl I really like...she's smart, funny, intelligent, attractive, NOT a whore. Every guy's dream, right? Well, we got to talking last night, and I sorta brought up the topic of going out (I'm not at liberty to tell exactly what was said, for her sake and mine), and she basically said that "Cupid has her heart in custody". She had been in a pretty serious relationship with another guy for several years, and found about about a year or half a year ago that he had been cheating on her for a while. Her opinion of love now is....really bitter, to be quaint. "Love can only bring you pain, etc." I'm afraid that she's given up on things. I did my damndest last night to try and tell her that love is so much more than that, and she said I made her feel a little better, but I'm not really that sure.

Anyone have any advice I can give her to convince her otherwise? I don't want to just stop talking to her or "give her (too much) space", because I want her to see that I do like her.

Help! :cry:

Depending on how long ago that happened you might need to try a few things.If it was recent give her some time. She needs to recover from it. Be there for her and make it known your interested.If it was a while ago talk to her more. Try to get her out go on dates. Don't be too pushy that might freak her a bit.Hope I helped

My suggestion, is to be there for her. BIG time. let her know you really care for her. and show her that you would never hurt her. a wicked tip for you : we LOVE it when guys do little things for us. like, flowers, writing, even a hug. so keep that in mind. dont push too hard on her because it can AND will push her away. so maybe its best to be her friend for now to let her know shes not alone. Its INCREDIBLY painful to find out youve been cheated on. and it takes a really long time to recover from that. good luck

I've had a girl use that as an excuse not to date me and said "I need time and then we can talk." and then not even 3 days later they're in some relationship with some dumb ass guy who'll end up breaking her heart. But do what you want I don't really know. Just giving you my advice.

Just give her some time like the other two girls said. Don't keep hinting to dates. That seems a little pushy. Instead of being a guy madly in love with her even if that is what you are be the best friend with a crush. Go out to eat, hang out at the park, go to the movies, but be sure it's not a date you know. Most girl/guy best friendships turn into a long lasting relationship. At least in my witnessing.