When feeling lonely, i find it harder to sleep. i would stay on the facebook with the wishful thinking that somebody will want to talk to meI like to let my mind wander, even when doing things, talking to someone, or watching tv, is this ADD?My mind goes plays scenarios when talking to people. if they are telling a story, i would re-enacted it. this is bad, because i don't come up with any replies. this leads to awkward silence.I see someone i like, i view them as this unreachable object. it is futile to ask them out, and would lead to a failed relationship. a person in my mind tells me i have better things to do.music helps me feel content againI get a warm fuzzy feeling whenever someone comments or likes anything about me on facebook. this is followed with pity against myself.I feel a calmness and tranquility at night when alone. i love it, even death doesn't change my mood.I view one of my best friends as a role modelI get nervous when wanted to call/text someone to hang out, i feel as though i'm disturbing them or an inconvenience, i know im not though, it's just the feeling won't go away. also, i don't know what to do when people "hang out"I feel pressure when someone forces me to talk about myself, i get the sense of "not worthy", which leads to a blank mind.how about yourselves? im might add onto the list the more i contemplate
Things you notice about yourself
Alot of these qualities seem to stem from insecurities.
I share a few in common though, for example the mind wandering (ADD is wayyy too over diagnosed now-a-days, so I highly doubt you have it.)
My mind also plays scenarios, but what's bad about it for me is that when a funny story is told, I keep re-enacting it and laugh much longer then other people. I don't typically have awkward silences though.
I also feel calmness and tranquility at night when alone, I leave my curtains open and just look out the window into the sky. Honestly the best place in the world is lying in my bed in the night looking out of my window.
Originally Posted By: OneOh1
[*]When feeling lonely, i find it harder to sleep. i would stay on the facebook with the wishful thinking that somebody will want to talk to me
hm...same here but I stay on skype.
[*]I like to let my mind wander, even when doing things, talking to someone, or watching tv, is this ADD?
I do this too. Its not ADD.
[*]My mind goes plays scenarios when talking to people. if they are telling a story, i would re-enacted it. this is bad, because i don't come up with any replies. this leads to awkward silence.
Same here. But I end up asking a big bunch of questions like "oh yeah? what happened next?" and a lot of hows and whys and whats....no silence.
[*]I see someone i like, i view them as this unreachable object. it is futile to ask them out, and would lead to a failed relationship. a person in my mind tells me i have better things to do.
Maybe its something related to insecurity. You need to keep your hope, your confidence up. Dont worry about what will happen tomorrow....live "in the moment"... think about "right here right now". Ask the "person in your mind" to take a break.
[*]I get a warm fuzzy feeling whenever someone comments or likes anything about me on facebook. this is followed with pity against myself.
Take the compliments and be happy, let the warm fuzzy feeling last longer.
Self-pity isnt good. I can only say that self-pity is like going downwards on stairs. Rather leave the self-pity and start climbing up the stairs.
[*]I get nervous when wanted to call/text someone to hang out, i feel as though i'm disturbing them or an inconvenience, i know im not though, it's just the feeling won't go away. also, i don't know what to do when people "hang out"
Best way...text the msg ASAP...dont think about it. The minute you want to call someone pick up the phone and call. I dont think anyone will mind having a little chat with you. They may actually feel happy that you called them. Who knows...maybe someone is actually wishing you would call them or text them!!
PS: hm...seeing your list, I plan on making one of my own too. I may add it here later.
when im lying at night, my mind wanders so much just thinking about random things I dont fall asleep for like 2 hours, I do this in school too. im always playing with my hair or nails or something, I cant like not do anything, im not like boucning off the walls or anything like that...Im the same way about liking someone, I think they are out of my league and I just think that they will not want me.Im the same way about calling someone, I wanted to call this girl but just beat around the bush for days and finally thought about it again and just hit send... im the same way online too with a girl I like. just got to not think so much and do, thats why all the dumb douchbag guys get girls they put no thought into them or themselves. LOL
I am a sarcastic asshole. Just lately I've REALLY been realizing what I say and how it takes effect on people. I am the funniest person some people know. I am pretty funny when my moment to speak comes around but sometimes it's a bit overboard and people sometimes tend to take it personally. I don't smile for no reason.I don't have a very enthusiastic voiceI work VERY hard and respect myself for it.I smoke a lot of weed but I am fine with it since it doesn't hinder my abilityI think a lot. About everything. You say hey and I'm analyzing what tone and look you used. I think A LOT. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY!! Is this OCD? I bounce my knee when sitting at a dinner table. When I am sitting at a poker table. When I am waiting in the doctors office. While I am talking to the doctor. While I'm on my break at work. Everywhere. If I'm sitting I am usually bouncing my leg at one point or another. I usually notice it and just keep doing it but not much longer after I stop as it is then taking thought process to do it. One day I woke up and went downstairs to find my grandma and mom having coffee and my grandma out of the blue asks me if I still bounce my leg and I say sure I do, I probably wont ever stop. She goes on to tell me about how I should stop doing that and that if I(this is how I took it) wanted to go anywhere big in life (lawyer, doctor, 7 year school pissaway,lol, it's just not my thing) I would need to stop bouncing my leg. When I am laying in bed I will cross my feet at the ankles and rub the top foot on the bottom foot back and fourth until I fall asleep. I usually don't notice myself doing it and didn't notice how much I do it in all-time situations(not just in bed!) until my ex put her foot on my feet every time I was doing it. Feet up on the coffee table, watching t.v in bed, sitting on the couch. I usually bounce my knee everywhere else as I am sitting on something solid. I dwell on lots of scenarios for a long time. Good or bad. I have an "if I can do it why can't you" attitude, but I am also very understanding and considerate. I feel I have tons of confidence I can do something... until it is time. For anything. Procrastination? Mental problem? I don't show much emotion. I am not very sensitive to others' problems unless it is immediate family or close friend. I go through friends like socks. My sister tells me it is because I am un-aware and careless of my actions. I have kept a couple or few good friends along the way. I feel I am very perceiving. that is some stuff I notice about myself.
I think about stuff a lot too, not as much as you. I think about scenarios, like should i have done this different, or should have I said this or that... it drives me nuts. I smile too much, I think its weird, I dont know, but if im doing something like working on something I dont smile, people ask me why im mad LOL.I dont really show emotion, like if im mad, upset, I wish I would to show people that they need to do things differently around meI have a few friends that turn friends away, its mainly how they act and what they talk about, one of my friends who has no friends, talks about himself way to much, is loud, and is an attention whore. another friend who has no friends is because he talks way to much about idiotic subjects that irrelevent to anything, has anger issues, another friend thinks his opinion is golden, and will call you out on anything, if you say rice tastes good, he will be like "nah dude, rice is nasty" you can tell him anything, he has anger issues. If your really sarcastic that it affects people, tone it down a notch, no one like someone who says something sarcastic about everything, especially serious situationsI think the only reason im their friend is because Im friends with everyone, and I have a problem where I dont want people to not like me, a girl punched my mom, I screamed in her face, and felt bad and now im sure she doesnt like me, and it sorta bothers me. If you have true friends... be good to them. And im probable their friends because I realize they have these problems, and I realize i have my own in other places.