I am generally pretty happy now-a-days but I have my periods where I get fairly depressed about my current social situation.I just have no clue how to make friends, and I have tried talking to women when it comes to finding someone to date, but I am not having any luck.I work out, I have an honest job, I take care of myself, I am going back to school, I am always trying to improve and be a better individual but nothing. What is wrong with me?
Wishing I had friends...
Well see I 9/10 times do not think there is but then I see people together and all these friends and then I think what is wrong with me. Sometimes I think this just must be my time to be all alone.
I think the problem is, there isn't a way to "make" friends. You just earn them over time. You don't get a good friend very quickly, even if you're very social and outgoing. The key is patience and openness I think. If you are happy with yourself while you're alone, why should the other people (or lack thereof) matter? Just keep an open mind and stay sure of yourself, and the fact that you like how you are. I think people sense when you're not sure, and it's a real turn off for meeting people. Must be a subconscious thing. Anyway, that's my advice. Don't "try". Just be open to people you think you might enjoy hanging out with, and let time take it's course. Friends aren't made in a dinner and a day. Friends are like a fine wine. If you drink too soon after bottling, usually not very good. The longer you let the friendship work, the better it is.
I'm assuming your over 18. So why not just go to clubs or bars and talk to guys and girls. I made a post about me having no friends but I've come to find there are a lot more people that like me that I didn't know about. I talk to them on AIM now and soon I'll be hanging out with them. After a few times hanging out I have friends. Then I meet their friends friends and I have more friends. The world is a very easy place to make friends. I mean jeez there's over 6 billion people here. There's bound to be someone to meet.
I suggest we make establishments where anyone is welcome that feels bad about their social life. So we get these people together and we develop relationships. Then we discuss what immediately turned us off from a fellow member and be perfectly straight forward and honest as to the reason. I mean say a member came that smelled really bad. I honestly feel someone should say they have a bad smell and it's affecting the people around them. I mean it's not like bad hygiene is a hard problem to fix.