I dont really post here that often but I just wanted a few opinions on this. I wanted to know what people thought is the biggest age gap between teens dating I guess. About a month ago i met this girl at a best friend's family party. I talked to her for a little bit and found out later that she liked me but along with that i found out that it was one of his sister's friends, I thought she was a cousin or something. She just turned 15 and I just turned 18. I saw her again yesterday mini-golfing and for the second time I had no idea that she was her, as she looked my age. I dont know if she really just matured faster or im just attracted to her but she looks older than she is. I asked my best friend what he thought, and he thought that the differnce was too great. And I asked my friend last night when i drove her home what she thought and she told me she thought it was fine if she was 15 cuz for some reason she thought that she was 14. She said no if she was 14. I just want more opinions on this as I have thought myself that 2 years is the biggest gap I would go but when I see her it make me contradict myself.I have also had other things to deal with and hadnt really had a chance to become closer with other girls throughout highschool if that makes a difference.
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Age difference
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Ignoring all the legal shit I think there's to big a difference in 15 and 18 to make it work.
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I hate to sound crude, but I'm sure you're aware anything sexual is out of the question.But for dating, it might be an obstacle. Can I assume you're a senior in high school or maybe even graduated already?She's still going through her adolescence and may not be as understanding if you have arrands to run, like work or school. Or she may want to hang out with her friends more or do school activities or events. So, there may be some conflict unless you feel she's mature enough to handle it.I personally wouldn't step into that territory but it's your call.
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I think it's to great of a distance, since you're probably going into college/university, and she's just in highschool. Also, anything sexual with her is completely out of the question because of laws. It's just a little to big of gap for my taste.
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Im doing a state program for school which basically gives me 2 years of community college for free and if I maintain the same grades and such at the community college I'll be able to go to a state school for free also like tcnj or rutgers. I glanced at the nj laws a few months ago for something with school and from what I understood of it was that once one reaches 16 years of age they may have sex with any aged person as long as it isnt a situation of the older one taking advantage of the other like incest, parent guardian, teachers, and such. And for those 14 and 15 nj allows a 4 year difference. This seemed odd to me so i may look into it later.I wasnt really going to push for anything, it was just that I wanted to know if I should continue to distance myself from her due to the age thing cuz I know she really likes me a lot and since i kinda do back i could see where it could go. I think i may just talk to her when i see her and see what happens and i dont want to seem weird or mean either so that seems like the best option.
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I know what you mean and Im not at all like that. I know some would but that would haunt my dreams if i did something like that.Here is the link where I got my info on the laws from:http://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=337647Sorry if its against the rules to post a link to another forum. It was just that the people there had the same interpretation as I did.
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It is a pretty big gap. 3 years may seem not much but considering she's only 15 then yea. Like the others said anything sexual is out of the question. And you should make sure she doesn't have the wrong intentions. My bf is 19 and I'm 17. We're not doing anything "illegal". I turn 18 in April but I'll be going away to college :(. Still working on that I am.
You should stay "more than friends" with her just make sure things don't get out of hand.
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ok,so am 16 and the legal age here in my country is 16,they are thinking of changing it. Anyway i got involved in a relationship when i was 13 with a 19 year old guy.What am trying to say is that it was not pretty,my mom went crazy when she found out and threatened to go to hell and back if i didn
t leave him alone. We were together until i turned 16 and he cheated on me.[Despite my mother
s ranting]. If this girl likes you and you don
t want to go to jail,you should speak to her about maybe crushing on someone who is her age or you could tell her to wait until she was ready if she was that interested in you. I know in my country even though the relationship is consented they send the guy to jail[especially if there is sex involved] and i believe you dont want that do you? So don
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I dont want to go to jail and I dont have those intentions but according to what I read in the above it actually is legal, or am I wrong? I'll prolly just wing it and see how things go. And if her parents had a problem i would just tell her that she should listen and respect what they say as simple as that. I also had another concern if something did happen. If she were to hide it or lie to her parents, what should I do?
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Dating is fine, but hiding things from the folks isn't.
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So dating is fine i agree but if you plan on having something with this girl i suggest you keep it underwraps as much as possible.Take note that am not asking you to be deceptive,am asking you to practice caution. So she may tell the parents that you guys are just friends and you don
t want to be serious as yet because of her age. In that way you don
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underwraps? lol.. its umm.. ILLEGAL
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Is it? What is the age of consent up there?
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When you say if something should happen,what does that mean and exactly what kind of something?
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The original post was about dating, which has no specific laws against it.As far as sex is concerned, the laws vary from state to state. Some allow a three year age difference, even across the divide of 18, but others do not.
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i know thatthe way i read that others person post was that if they have anything sexual going on, to keep it underwraps.
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I dont think its such a great idea. 15 and 18 is a huge maturity difference, and sex is out of the question. If you guys start dating for months and feelings start to grow its going to become increasingly harder to control urges with such strong feelings and something is bound to happen, it just isnt a great idea.Also this may just be me but i dont like to date younger girls due to maturity differences. I have had bad experiences with it, even with a 1 year difference i was 16 at the time and she was 15, it didnt work out.I have a big maturity difference over my current girlfriend and we are both 18, its not terrible though. Its just certain thinks that can easily be looked past considering i love her.But as i was saying maturity wise, sex wise, mostly everything it isnt such a hot idea.
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Personally i don't think it's the age that's the problem. It's simply that this is most likely to be a teen crush on a more older, maturer and more experienced man.I'm sure she'd still be gunning for you even if you were 25 and she knew it was way out of the question.
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I don't see much of a problem with the age difference personally. Girls are usually abit more mature then guys the same age when they're teenagers. When I was her age I was not intrested in dating guys the same age because they all behaved like hyperacive immature spastic little children. As long as you arn't doing anything illigal, it's fine to date the girl. Do you want to look back on this and think "What if?" or "I wish I'd gone for it" ?Anyway, it is likely to be a short term relationship, like most teenage relationships are, so theres no harm in trying. I'm sure deep down you know if you want to go out with this girl or not, don't let a 3 year gap get in the way.I first met my boyfriend when I was almost 17. I'm now coming up to my 20th birthday and we're still together and he's eight and a half years older then me. We don't have an issue with the age difference or with being in different stages of our lives because we really love and understand each other.