Hey peoples, I have been seeing my bf for about 2 months now. I spend alot of time at his house and spend the night a few times a week. This is the first guy I have really seriously dated that had his own place and where moving in with him is an option. How do you know when its time to move in together. I live with my brother now so its not like its big deal to leave where im at or anything. Anyone have any advice?
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Moving in together
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Rad is funny but also right. Maybe you shoudn`t be so eager to move in with him so quickly i know you are in love with eachother but maybe you should wait until your relationship is stable enough before you moving in with him.
Like Rad said when you return from your honeymoon in the Bahamas would be the perfect time. :smile:
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I think its a bad idea. You guys have been dating a very short while and hardly know each other. At this point i understand you two are totally infatuated, and this being your first real relationship it is most definitely very exciting for you. But its key to take things slow in a relationship.Two months is not enough time to get to know someone and certainly not long enough to be moving in together. After 5 or 6 months i thought i knew my girlfriend like the back of my hand, we go on vacation after we dated for 8/9 months and a whole different side comes out. It takes a long time to get to know someone, and while i love my girlfriend to death and would love to marry her someday after college it still wouldnt be a good idea to move in with each other right now (and its almost been a year).You will find once you move in together you no longer have a personal space. You are constantly around this person and could possibly get sick of them. Fights start happening, etc etc. My advice is take it slow, get to know each other and just enjoy each other for now, then make a HUGE decision like moving in together later on.
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ok i guess it is kinda early. Im not trying to just move out away from my brother or anything, like i want to get out but its not that big of a deal. I really do love him, hes not my first bf serious bf, i went out with my ex for close to 2 years, but he didnt have his own place so we couldnt live together.Like her age. -im 20His age. -hes 25Is he stable; does he have a job. -yea he has a good jobIs this a love thing, even though it's not very long yet, or purely sexual. - its love and sex thanks for you help, i probably got ahead of myself with moving in, just i love him so much and want to be with him
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As a general rule, at the begining of a relationship what you see of your partner is what they want you to see or want to be. It can take a good 6 months before that wall comes down and your seeing who they really are.Living together is a very good way to make that wall come down very fast, which may not be a good thing.One way I think me and my bf really got an idea of what it would be like to live together is by traveling together. After almost 3 months of having your partner around 24/7 you do really know what it would be like.
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thats kinda what i want, it would be kinda nice to find out what hes really like soon, insted of just waiting forever. it took me forever to find out my last bf was an ass.
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It is a quicker way to find out what he's really like but if you don't like what you see the breakup will be alot worse if you're living together.You have to divide all your stuff back up, pack, find somwhere else to live, there may be issues over paying rent depending on what kind of agreement you have with the landlord and whos name is on the tenacny agreement, getting bond back, bills if your registered as the bill payer with the power/water company etc.You just have to deal with more then emotions if you're living together so think it through and when putting your name down on any tenancy/rent/bond/power/water agreements or anyhting, keep in mind what is going to happen if it all goes sour. You don't want to be stuck paying both of your shares of the rent if he bails on you.
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Ok people thanks for all your help. i didnt really talk him to much about the idea before i said it on here. It didnt exactly go over really good. He pretty much said what all of you said its to early.thanks again