Seems like everyone I know is a real let down these days.My gf expects our long distance relationship to last, even though the way she acts, she isn't even going to see me for over a year. Yet in the mean time we have an open relationship status to.So she ain't gonna be seeing me for a year and fucking people, and she seriously thinks I'm going to put up with that?Next would be "friends" I have at least 125 or so people around my age I know, 40 or so of them in my general area the rest are a bit far. I understand it can be hard for them to come see me because some live 50-70 miles away.But not a damn one of my friends actually tries to make the friendships work. You know I even hid online and didn't call people for 3 weeks. Not one call checking up on me. Not a single message saying. "Hey I ain't heard your existence in almost a month you ok?" Nothing.They'll only talk if I call them and if they have absolutely nothing else at all to do. THEN they'll go ahead and talk to me.And if I want to hang out with then, It can only happen if I go to their house or something at a time when they don't have any plans at all.I go 70 miles once a week to a social event where I hang with my "friends" But outside that event they don't speak or interact with me in anyway even if I try to contact them.Why is it that I can take the time and the money to go 70 miles, while they can walk to the events. But they can't once a month or even once a year go 70 miles to spend the night at my place.And I know it sounds like I just need new friends but seems like everytime I get a new friend they turn out acting like that.
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People just ain't worth it anymore?
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You know I am not sure what to tell you, but sadly things usually have to get worse before they ever get better. Just keep going along and if you are not into what your g/f wants than drop her. It may be hard but it is better to face that now then to be hurt for an entire year.As far as your "friends" those are not friends. Friends are people that do respond and you can depend on. If they are not fulfilling that then get new ones.
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Open relationships..a big no no to me personally. Some people go for that though. Why wait around when you could be meeting the person you could spend forever with instead of waiting for the one who cant wait a year for you.. who would prefer to fuck other guys?Your friends sound like jerks. Try hanging out with someone from your work? Thats what I usually do if I get annoyed with the drama queens.
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Is it worth waiting a year for this girl? Do you expect to be with her long term once your'e back together?I think an open relationship is a breeding ground for distrust and jelousy. Being 'just friends' would probably be a less painful and faster way to end the relationship.As for friends, I'd put it down to your friends personalities. Some of my friends are the type who always call people up and organise activites and such. Most however, are more comfortable and relaxed about the relationship and we don't activly seek out each others company as much, if that makes sence. Me and my best friend are both the latter. As a result, we don't see ech other much but we're still best friends. Just because they're not breaking down your door to hang out dosn't mean they don't value your friendship.
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nah it's not one of those situations because they hang with their other friends more often. People seem to take advantage of the situation I put up with allot.As for the open relationship, yeah they're screwy but in allot of cases depending on how its dealt with, I just don't think it's that big of a deal.If you're not getting knocked up or someone pregnant and you don't catch something, you're not really hurting anyone if it's just for pleasure I think people dwell on things to much.But to ignore your partner almost completely for your friends is a bit disrespectful if you catch what I mean, I'm probably giving bad exampling but I'm tired and I cbf with thinking atm
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I think open relationships impact relationships more then people innitially think they will.Kinda like couples who have threesomes and think nothing bad will come for it. Even if you're not a jelous person, little questions and insecurites can eat you up and alot of coples break up aafter having a threesome.To me, it may not seem like it will hurt you, but it still might. I guess if you're not that close with your partner or you're not super serious, it might not be such a big deal for you.