Alright, so I'm in a relatively new relationship, we've been going out for about 2-3 weeks, and things are going well. Last night we went out for the 4th or 5th time, and had a good time. Dinner and a movie, and she came to my place to hang out for a bit afterwards. We did the usual, hold hands, put my arm around her, kind of cuddle for a bit. So, when she was leaving, I walked her to her car (she had driven that night) to say goodnight. So, we get outside, and talk 'oh, i had a good time tonight', that kind of thing. Problem is, I still haven't worked up the courage to kiss her yet. So, I just gave her a hug goodbye. I'm fairly upset with myself, because she had been throwing herself at me the entire night, initiating almost all of the contact, leaning into me, all of that. In my previous relationship (my first), we would kiss and make out. But she was the one who initiated the first kiss. And, when we broke up, she told me that I was a bad kisser, which gave my self esteem in that department a little bit of a hit. I just don't want to screw it up right now, so I'm really nervous whenever I get the chance to kiss her, and chicken out.Can anyone give me any advice on just how to get over my insecurities and shyness and just kiss her already? I know that she's waiting for it, I just can't bring myself to do it. I'm very attracted to her, and always have a good time with her, this is just a problem I want to get over. Any advice?
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Getting over that first kiss
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Gather your nuts together and kiss her or it is going to be a problem. She's probably wondering why you haven't kissed her already, maybe not but more than likely.Sometimes in life there's no getting over what we fear there's just doing it in spite of our fear.Be afraid but kiss her anyway.Go Kiss her.Kiss Her.
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That's a very good approach that I've used before to great success.Get all romantic(ee) and like your ready to kiss her and tell her your nervous, she may end up kissing you.
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I was the same a few years ago, but I agree with Oldfolk's advice;Kiss her you idiot!Seriously, in 2-3 months time you'll wonder why you had any issues about it.
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just adressing what your previous girlfriend said about you being a bad kisser. My ex called me ugly.. You should see the girl Im with. :PBreakups always brings out bullshit.
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Trust me, she won't think you're a bad kisser once you're kissing her uhhhh :wink:
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Personally, I don't think you should tell her that you're nervous...it might actually just make her nervous, which could lead to the whole thing being really weird and overdrawn. You mentioned that she was throwing herself at you, this seems to signify that she really likes you and damn it you should just go for it and kiss her already! Oh and one more thing, what your ex said is a load of bull. When you like someone a lot and they like you back, there is NO SUCH THING as a bad kisser!
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Thanks, guys! I'm going out with her either Saturday or Sunday, so I'll tell you how it goes! :smile:
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Originally Posted By: TechnichalBreakups always brings out bullshit. I agree, I wouldn't pay ANY attention to what she said, she was breaking your heart and she figured she was on a roll. Be confident! Good Luck!