Hey I know that its something that effects a surprisingly large number of guys (one in a hundread) so I wanted to share my experiences with phimosis and circumcision with you all.I live in Britain where circumcision is not the general norm, however phimosis runs in my family and so my father asked for me to be circumcised. The doctars refused on the grounds it was unnecessary. What my parents failed to do was ever tell me any of this, despite the problems it caused my father, and my uncle on my mothers side. My mother told me all of this only when I approached her with my problem.I had never retracted my foreskin and I never knew I was supposed to be able to. With hindsight I realise how limited even my pleasure from mastabation was, seeing as I could not rub myself very hard without causing discomfort. But being young, and having nothing to tell me otherwise, I presumed my penis was just tyhe same a sanyone elses. So then at the age of 16 I meet a girl and try to have sex. Tried with and without condom and both caused sufficent discomfort and pain to simply turn me floppy. Following this I was really distraught; I thought there was something wrong with me, but with me as a person rather than my penis. I was flooded with all sorts of teenage paranoia, worrying if I had an erection problem or perhaps prostrate cancer. I dithered without a solution for about a year. Then surfing these boards and reading other posts led to me discovering the truth, that by god I should be able to retract my foreskin, and the pain I feel on attempting penetration is not normal. This is when I first spoke to my mum about it and she told me about my father being circumcised as a child and my uncle on her side having done as an emergency when was a child due to phimosis causing him excrutiating pain everytime he ahd an erection. My first thought; why was I taught about this condition then?So then I got circumcised right? Nah! It is apparantly possible to simply stretch your foreskin over time and thats what I decided to set about doing. I went to the doctar and was given steroid cream to help with this though he was sceptical it would work due to the severity of my phimosis. I gave it a shot for about six months and experienced no progress. After I spoke to a fellow who'd been trying for a year or so I decided to hell with that. Went back to the doctar, signed up for a circumcision. Bloody six month waiting line haha, my adoloscence was quickly passing me by without any successful sexual activity, but what can ya do.Finally the operation came, at the age of 18, just as the summer holidays were beginnign which was really fortunate. They removed my foreskin, my penis bloated up in a mess of brusing and blood, and withinn a couple weeks it was fully healed and I was able to mastabate. Well that side of it is deffinately easier; I never knew how much self-pleasure I was missing. Its been a full year now and I've not had sex though I'm sure that time will come. What I do know is my penis feels alot more comfortable; I didnt know any different before but now I realise how constricted it was. I am deffinately glad I got the operation.If anyones thinking of getting it, I'd say only get circumcised because you need to be circumcised due to phimosis or comparable condition. I dont reccamend it purely for the aesthetic value. Not that it looks bad atall, but we are talking about your genitalia here, you shouldnt go into this stuff lightly. If you have phimosis, feel free to try just stretching your penis. It didnt work for me, but does apparantly work for others. But if it comes down to it and your not getting anywhere, dont be shy about asking for a circumcision at your doctars and dont put it off for ages like I did. Its a simple operation and it will be a big relief once its over with. If your worried about cultural concerns, ie your European and its not the norm to be circumcised; remember that by the time you have someone naked in your bed its unlikely they are going to tell you to put your cock away. I'm open about circumcision and noone seems bothered.I also reccamend parent speak to their sons about this. I havnt fully forgiven my parents for just leaving this to me when they knew it was very likely I would have problem. It would not have taken much for them to sit me down and explain what phimosis was at the age of 14 or 15, or they could have chekced my penis themselves when I was younger. Instead they left me sexual frustration and two years of confusion and fear. It is not a huge amount of effort to sit down with your son about this stuff, even if he is a reclusive teenager, at least not compared to the effort and frustration he may end up having to go through as a result of your negligence. At the same time I am glad I had the choice, I am glad the doctars refused to crimcumcise me as a baby when my father requested, because ultimately at least I was able to make an informed decision and choose to have the operation. Had only I been presented with the information about my father and my uncle before I was certain there was a problem I would have been able to save myself a great deal of anguish.Finally it would also be good if you can try to be as open about this as possible with thsoe around you. I got a statistic off the internets (which is always trustworthy) that 1 in everyone hundread guys sufferes phimosis. You never know; maybe when talk about your own problem or past problem you could be helping to inform a guy who has gone through similar shit but is unsure why or what to do. Think how many guys went to your school. 300 went to mine, thats 2 other guys I may have seen walking about suffering from phimosis, and I wonder what they have had to go through as a result.
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My experiences of phimosis and circumcision
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That was a very good post. Thank you for sharing your experience. :smile:
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Well I can tell you my story if it helps anyone feel better about getting it done but anyway. Since the age of 11ish (17 now) i had a white ring round the tip of my foreskin and couldn't pull back my foreskin at all and finally at the age of 16 i decided to go to the doctor knowing i would have to be circumsized.Well as expected i did.So i was ok with the actual procedure, it was telling my parents was the hard part. I'll openly admit i broke down and cried telling them. I'm not ashamed of it.But anyway, they were both really supportive and my dad took me to the hospital on the big day. I wasn't allowed to eat before the operation. But at around 2:30pm i was taken away into theatre, and given some general anestetic. Woke up a couple of hours later in some slight pain but nothing major. Got to go home the same day. Few days off school. But one morning a few days after the operation before a PE exam, i wake up and there's bleed everywhere. Turned out it was nothing, just blood had been sittin from the op inside me or something odd like that and it just released itself or something.But yeah, it was a great success and now im 100% recovered. I was a virgin before the operation so i wouldn't be able to compare sex to before and after but all i can is, it's great