Well, I've been living in this dorm for about a week and a half now and I do not like my roommate at all. The main problem is that he doesn't know what not to say. He cannot say one sentence without offending someone and on top of that, he continues speaking after he has said something offensive and he continues to offend on a deeper and deeper level. He is a horrible person and the problem is that he continues to follow me around and I don't want to be a part of his crap. There are 6 people in my suite and we all hate him. We've told him that he needs to keep it to himself but he doesn't listen. There is no getting through to him. On top of all that, he does horrible impressions of the way he thinks people speak and think (they're all wrong, of course). Next, I'll ask him a question and he'll go off into random tangents not even near the original topic that I brought up and during these long speeches about crap, he says more offensive things about people. Also, he call his parents and cusses and insults them without any hesitation and he does the same to any of us in this suite when we say something that doesn't agree with his "beliefs." He is seriously going to get the crap kicked out of him someday and I don't want to be around when that happens. What can I do to get him to grow up?(Sorry about the poor organization, I have to type this while no one is around which is never. In fact, someone just walked in the door.)
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My Roommate
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sorry to say but he sounds really depressed. I dont think you can help him
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well my first suggestion was trying to talk with him, thats outsecond was moving him out of that dorm, possibilitythird was just getting u and ur friends to beat the crap out of him... idk if he's black or white, but if hes black, throw his ass inna KKK meeting room, or white, through him in front of the mexican mafia, or black panthers... either way he'll get outta ya buisness...
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Start doing really horrible and insulting impressions of him.
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That is so funny can you even do that.Am laughing my ass of right now.Anyway my advice would be exactly what GPMY said.
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Quote: What can I do to get him to grow up?i dk if you can. he just sounds liek a bullheaded jerk. IS there a way you can get the school to trasnfer him to another dorm (depending on how many you have i guess) or suite. like could your suite guys and roomates take a potiion to the dean or talk to the guy in charge of the dorms. (i don't live in a dorm so i dk how any of that works.) but i;d talk to everyone and try everything if i was you.i know grown isn;t playing when he said (basically) throw him to the wolves. but doing that usally backfires. who;s to say the guy want go on a rampage and turn them in and bob gets expalied... it;s better for bob and his suite roomates to go threw the right channels ang get the probblum solved for good. but then no one agrees with what i think anyway so i dk why i'm wasting my time even saying this.
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Actually, I totally agree with you. Good advice!
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Thanks for the replies, guys!I would go through the school to see what can be done, but they have a strict no room assignment changing policy. I can't talk to my RA because he's a stoner and doesn't give a crap about anything. The only thing I can do is to wait out this semester and get another roommate next semester. Should I just put up with it until then?
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Does your school have residence life coordinators (RLC)? How about an Office for First Year Experience (OFYE)? I know those are both places you can go on my campus. There's also probably a mental health office somewhere on campus that can help deal with the issue. Or peer mediators. Talk to your RA even if you don't think he'll care. It's his job to care, and if he's no help, go to his superior. You shouldn't have to deal with roommate issues like this by yourselves.
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I'm actually going to see a counselor on Monday for some other things but I'll bring this up as well and see what she has to say. Thanks again.