Okk.. So It's 2:00 A.M and I just got off the phone with my boyfriend and i reallyy need to get this out of my system. So for all who dont know me Im ashley and Ill be 16 in november. Ive been going out with a guy who will be 18 in 6 days. We have been going out for about 1 month and 1 week so far, and he was talking to me about sex and how long i wanted to wait.And me, Well I want to wait till im about a junior( I guess its unrealistic)(ps Im a sophomore) becuase I didnt wanna be like every other girl and not be a virgin. I also likee the name of a virgin because it makes me sound pure & clean. I kinda wanted to be the only virgin outta everybody cuz i wanna be different. And I wanna make sure im with the guy for a good period of time because I wanna loose my virgenity to someone who i know ill bee with forever/ for a long time. Alsoo I like telling familyy and friends that im a virgin cuz i like my family being proud of me and I dont wanna dissapoint my aunt (who thinks very good of me).On the other hand, yessss I knoww it's illegal cuz the age,and I dont care/am not concerned about that, but its mostly cuz he's 18 and yess he does have hormones which i respect cuz he's a guy and all guysss do get horney.. and he told me on the phone tonight that he does really like me and he would hope it would be with in 2 months. and I asked him "if we didnt have sex within the 2 months, would you break up with me" and he said no cuz he's not an asshole and he doesnt justttt wanna have sex.&& he says once you have sex with somebody you dont see them the same, ( in a good way). And it makes the relationship more closer. Sooo...Im kinda confused on if im readyy?? Im nott sure. And I dont know what to say to him.. Do i have sex with him? Or do I not??Im really hard at making decisions on my own, So I kinda need your guy'es help on this. And I know you guys cant make this decision for me but sum input would be great..I feel like I wanna cry I dont know what to do.PLEASEEE HELLP EVERYONE!
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First time sex
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I would say do what you feel deep down inside. It sounds like your mind is made up, but you don't want to lose him. Well, if her really cares for you then he will wait. You will know when you are ready and if you love him. But follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you. Follow your heart.
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Am not saying what happened to me would happen to you,but you are not ready for this.You guys have been togther for a month and a week,don
t you think that that is a little to early to even think of having sex.I dont want to lecture you and i am not saying anything negative but when i was your age i was pregnant with my daughter.I am NOT saying that it will happen to you but am telling you that it is not easy.Your aunt will be even more proud of you if you stand your ground and decide when it was right for you to make the decision of having a sexual relationship.Dont rush into something because your boyfriend drops hints and because he has hormones,take your time please.If he really likes you he will wait until yoy are sure and ready.Sex is a great thing but it has consequences that you cant imagine.Please note that i am not telling you anything bad and that i am not judging you,i just want you to make the right decision. -
plain and simple...don;t unless you want to.don;t listen to his sweet talk (pressure) He shouldn;t be tellign oyu let's have sex within 2 months. he should be saying nothing about it.. i mena talkign about sex is fine. me and my girl did that too. but him talkign about when to have sex is completly diffrent and it sounds to me he;s putting pressure on you... pressure in a sneaky way so it don;t acually look liek he;s pressuring you. but from what i read it sounds like prssure to me. i'm not going to say not to have sex with him or do.. i'm just goign to say do what you feel is right. If you don't want to lose your viginity, then don't. i dated shannon almost over a year before we started having sex. When we finally did it was all her idea to. i know alot of relationships start having sex way before a year but that was what she wanted. sex hasn;t made our relationship closr or better. we are more comftarble with each other naked.... that's about all it's done. but i;ve been in a realation ship where my x gf was prssured into havign sex wiht me (not by me. buy her friends) and the sex tore us apart. sex doesn't alwasy = closer togeather.
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Ok thanks, you guys are right,. If hee truelyy likess mee and we start falling in love, then he will truely wait for me. =)Im not going to give it up =)
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Yeah. Do yourself a favor and don't base this decision on what he's telling you. He has an agenda.Also, what happens too often to folks who have sex this early in a relationship is that the relationship becomes to be only about sex. He's right, it will change the way you see each other. But probably not in the way he's wanting you to believe.You have one first time. Guard it (and your heart) with your life.
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Quote:He has an agenda.Yea.. To do the wooola woola pooka wooooo smooch smooch kissy tickle bump bump under the covers tackle dance with you.Ok sorry it was a perfect set up to be really goofy…..and I took it. On the no joking side….. Very serious… damien’s right. You ONLY have a ONE - FIRST… time.I’ve seen a lot of girls fall for sweet talking, sedative, “ I love you” talk and he did his thing and went on to the next girl in weeks. Hell, even days…
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There's plenty you can do that is sexual, but isn't vaginal intercourse, but only do what you feel comfortable doing. You shouldn't care about what everyone else is doing. Clearly, your virginity is important to you, and it would be foolish to give it up just to fit in. If anyone judges you for waiting, then you should probably reconsider your relationship with that person (b/f, friend, etc.) because they're clearly not accepting, and why would you want to waste your time with people who make fun of others beliefs and actions.
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If you're unsure, then the answer is no, you shouldn't have sex with him.Wait till you are sure, without a dout that this is the guy you wanna remember for the rest of you life as your first.A huge number of people who loose their virginity before they're 18 regret it.There's no rush, go at your own pace not his and be really sure that he is worth it.I waited (effing ages) untill I was 120% sure that it was the right person and the right time and have very fond memories and zero regrets and those are things that it's worth the wait to get.
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Well let me start off with I am sorry, guy's suck and are genetic assholes from time to time without us meaning to be. Secondly I am in my 20's, so I am not some old fruit, my Wife and I dated for 7 years before we got married, Cause of school and finances, but we never had sex until our wedding night. That ment the world to me, I had lived life I wasn't a Virgin and I would constantly ask my girl, whats the deal, lets just do it, and i am so glade that she was/is smarter than me, she knew that the most personal, one-of-a-kind thing she could give me was her virginity. There isn't a second that goes by that I don't regret giving my virginity to her, it's something i can never take back and another, less important girl, has it. I guess what I am saying is think about what your future husband would think, if it's him it will mean more to him, and he can wait till the honeymoon, but if it's not him you would have saved yourself a whole lot of heart ache and future pain to your husband over him knowing that he's not the only one who has known you intimatly.