A girls saying they want to be friends is simply their way of saying "i don't find you attractive".I'm not talking only physically attractive here, but mostly mental.this is a good thing, because unlike your face, your mindset and body can be changed.For example, this girl that i thought was pretty cute. She just ended up throwing herself at me. And because she was so desperate i find her repulsive now.Same thing with girls. If you constantly shower her with attention, she will run away.There is a whole community dedicated to how to change yourself from what you are right now to a man that every women wants, and this forum is NOT it.in a nutshell:1. Do not be desperate. Don't always give her attention, instead: tease her with your attention. Give her lots attention, then go talk to other guys/girls. Then when you come back and play with her a little more. During the convo, be sure to have fun and build comfort and also to talk sexually. Make fun of her sometimes, but nothing hurtful like their weight (unless she's really fat XD). This is called push/pull. Show them that you are not affected by their looks and treat them like any other 6th grade little girl. Tease them. Be different.2. Get in shape. Think about a fat chick. Do you want to tap that? maybe only if you're desperate, but that would contradict the rule #1 above. Just get in shape. You don't have to be a body build (actually, it's impossible for you to be one), but just get in shape and have some definition of your abs and back. Never use machines. Do anything you want, but you MUST do bench press, dead lift and squat. Those are the ones that make you grow. Also, eat more protein. Don't be scared of the bullsh1t that our society wants us to believe about foods. Like how cholesterol in eggs are bad, how fats in foods will make you fat. Bottom line: Protein = good. Natural fats= good. You don't have to be too picky about carbs, but just none after dinner. Btw, fruits milk and yoghurt are carbs.3. Getting in great shape is just an added bonus. There's nothing stopping a guy in slightly above average shape from getting any girl he wants. Last thing: you have to know that 99% of things that come out of a girl's mouth is BULLSH!T. They don't know what they want, and that's why they need a guy to tell and show them what they want. Be a leader. Take ACTION. Do something that scares you everyday. A boring guy is the biggest turn off for women. Set standards for yourself as if drawing a circle around you. Don't let anyone come into the circle. This is YOUR mindset, and don't let anyone else interfere with that. Women are looking for a solid mindset with congruency. Be sure of yourself and TAKE CHARGE. In a pack of wolves, and alpha/leader wolf gets any pick of the female wolves he wants, and the rest gets sloppy seconds. This is because nobody dares to fuck with the leader wolf. He is smarter, faster, stronger and that is why he is the alpha wolf.pm me if u wanna know more.cause us guys need to unlearn these feminine and beta traits that the society has brainwashed us with.