Getting your 'cherry popped'?

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Right, im 16 and slept with 10 guys but the problem is, is that only the last one 'popped my cherry' im kinda worried, is this normal? or isn't it?Please someone tell me whether this is normal or notThanks

I only bled with the last one,im not too sure if he was largerand it wasnt too painfulim just worried thats all

i know what your saying but i only bled with the last guy i slept with,yeah obviously ive lost my virginity ages ago but shouldnt i have bled with the first guy i slept with?thats what im confused about

Ya I think you can only get popped once..I am only 15 but I think thats the way it happens..

thats what i mean; but why didnt it pop when i first lost my virginity?

Thanks for that,by the way i dont go sleeping aroundmany of the people i slept with have been relationships lasting over 3 months,

Still way to young to have had 10 partners. 3 months isnt that long and obviously they weren't worth it because they arent around anymore. As far as your "cherry" its gone. You may not have bled the first but that doesn't mean you cant bleed the second third or tenth time. You really should stop the whole sleeping around thing, your only 16 and your going to end up with an STD or pregnant someday, and a bad rep.

Originally Posted By: shelbieexThanks for that,by the way i dont go sleeping aroundmany of the people i slept with have been relationships lasting over 3 months, That doesn't justify anything. This may sound cliche, but sex is much better with somebody you love/trust/feel deeply for. I find hard to believe that 3 months would enable you to develop in the relationship emotionally enough to handle sex - what if you were faced with the consequences? They'd obviously be difficult to deal with because the guys aren't around anymore.As for your "cherry", well and truely popped, it probably just didn't bleed until now.

I'm a yet another guy so take anything I say about this with a grain of salt.While I think it unlikely I would imagine it possible that your other partners haven't broken or completely broken the hymen. Is there any other reason you can think of for the blood? Was it a lot or just a small amount? (That wouldn't tell me anything but may be informative to some of ladies who might comment.)I'm just taking a shot in the dark here but maybe it was that this guy finished popping what somebody else started. That is the hymen had already been broken during sex, or exercise or whatever but wasn't broken all the way. This guy was big enough or rough enough he finished it off. I have no idea if that possible but it's all I came up with.

Its not a prediction its the cold hard reality of life. A 16 year old who has already had 10 partners and likely to have alot more in the future could be very prone to getting an STD or pregnant. Who knows who those 10 guys were sleeping around with. And as far as the bad rep, it does happen. The word gets out that jane slept with todd, then slept with mike, then slept with jake at a party and so on and so on you will eventually get a bad rep, especially in high school. Its very unlikely that this wont happen in high school, rumor spreads very fast, 100 people have already heard the story before you even knew it was out.She asked for hymen advice and i gave it, but i also added my 2 cents about sleeping around alot, and i feel i was inline in doing so, i didn't giver her shit about sleeping around i just gave her advice coming from someone whos seen it happen a million times.

I guess it's possible that your hymen was pushed aside the previous nine guys you were with, and torn on your tenth. Very unlikely though. What I'm assuming is that the tenth guy tore into your inner labia and ripped the skin, therefore making you think your cherry popped. Did you ever do a physical inspection of your 'gina before the tenth guy?Here's something I found:QuestionI'm 14 years old and I have a septate hymen. I thought I was a complete mutant. My other two sisters do not have a septate hymen. I recently looked up hymen and figured out that I have a septate hymen. They were completely shocked at how I described my hymen and started bursting out laughing. And make fun of me and say that I have a handle cause I described it as vertical and sticks out a little. I'm wicked embarrassed about it and it won't break. I can't really use tampons and it's just bugging me because i'm worried about me ever being able to have sex because one woman said she wanted to cry cause she had a septate hymen. I heard you can have it surgically removed or some people actually "snip it". I want to tell my mom about it, but i'm afraid she'll laugh and say that it isn't worth going to a doctor about it. Especially thinking about how embarrassed I will be if my dad has to know about it. Over all I feel like a monster or something cause I know nobody else with this type of hymen and that maybe even a doctor would be a little shocked me being 14 and have such a weird hymen. I'm sorry to burden you with my silly questions and rants. But I have no clue what to do.AnswerA septate hymen sometimes is formed when the hymenal ring does not completely resolve and leaves a "vertical band of tissue" in front of the vaginal opening. Many times this "band of tissue" is flexible and can be stretched gently. This will allow you to pushed aside the tissue to allow insertion of tampons. If the tissue is not flexible or too thick to allow insertion of tampons, the tissue can be easily excised with outpatient surgery or sometimes even in the clinic with local anesthesia (depending how much tissue needs to be removed). The surgery will not cause any harm to future fertility or sexual intercourse. If you are very embarrassed about this, you can have this removed. And if you are not willing to ask your parents about this procedure, you may wait until age 18, when you can make your own medical decisions. If you are able to see your doctor, you can have this examined and ask him or her questions about it.

Okay people, i only asked you all a simple questionand i havnt at all got a bad reputation.Yes, i maybe young but who's to judge me, so is it okay for someone whos 30 to have slept with 50 men or 50 women?i am young and can be naive but ill make my own mistakes and i will learn from them,i do take extra precautions so im not some silly little girl who sleeps around, i use contraception and i am on the contraceptive pill.If im on both then i highly doubt ill have an STD, and i do generally go for screenings and checks just to make sure i dont have any infections or diseases.I am young but im not stupid, i know all about infections and diseases and i make sure that im well protected before sleeping with someone.And as for anyone saying that im going to get a bad name, you can think what you like, i asked you all my question and for my sex life to be kept out of this,so thank you to all who has commented and if anyone else has any further information for me about this, then id be greatful if you could comment x

"i use contraception and i am on the contraceptive pill.If im on both then i highly doubt ill have an STD"As I'm sure you know, but just to be clear, the pill does nothing to protect anyone from a STD. If indeed you are practicing safe sex I will assume your other form of contraception is a condom. If not, than it's not safe sex, at least not safe from a STD.

You replied to me, but I did not mention your sexual reputation, I actually answered (or tried to answer) your question. Just be careful who you reply to, in this case you replied to Sexpert, the guy who tried to answer you.

Yeah i know; i was just replying in generaland what i meant to say to the reply above yours;i am on the pill to stop getting myself pregnantas someone before you said that i could face being pregnantand thats why im on the pill,sorry for replying to you; i was just replying in general

Im sorry for questioning your sexual history Shelbie, i wasnt saying you would get a bad rep, or an STD, or pregnant im just saying it happens, and it happens very often!I was just giving advice (which im sure your aware of) from personal experience. Just in my experience if your 16 and have had multiple partners the whole world knows! And before you know it your a "slut" or a "whore" when in fact it maybe the exact opposite. You know why you slept with the people you slept with, maybe you loved them, cared for them, or just wanted to have sex. But none of that matters to other kids your age, you will just automatically be labeled based on what they decide happened.But more importantly just make sure you use condoms along with the pill. The pill isnt 100% effective (i shouldnt talk because i dont use condoms with my gf anymore and shes on the pill) and also you can still get an STD with the pill!Once again i didnt mean for it to sound like i was questioning or making accusations about your sexual history, i was just giving friendly advice, good luck to you and just be safe

Thank YOU!!!!!!![my thoughts exactly]

It's Gods wrath, he doesn't like gay men... or brazen women who enjoy their sexuality. I do see Natasha's point. If this was a 16 year old boy who said he had 10 partners most people would assume he's a kid lying about his conquests to sound masculine and beyond that it's, "well he's just being a guy, maybe a stupid guy but still just a guy."When a girl comes on and posts that she's gonna have labels stuck on here whether it's true, false, or otherwise. It's an undeniable double standard.There's no problem with offering critical advice but when the advise becomes repetitive or judgemental or belligerent at the expense of the original question it becomes inappropriate, I think. Even people who don't share my, your, thor's or whoever moral standard should be able to come here and feel they can ask their question without being subjected to persecution. How far that was taken in this thread is a matter of the opinion of the reader but I think it was obvious that the focus of the thread was moving far away from having anything to do with the question. Which is why I posted an answer that is based on only a best guess.The poster should feel that at least somebody is addressing or attempting to address their question or what good is the site.I'm bored today, but should be working, instead of rambling on ad nauseum about shit.

Albiet i never stated anything on a sexist level, and i never had a "holier than thou" tone and i NEVER told her that was going to happen. I told her to be careful because it does. I dont know where you went to high school but in the United States its very very common for rumor to spread fast for ANYONE. People find out what other people did whether they did drugs, had sex, caused a fight whatever, the rumor spreads.If your telling me a 16 year old who has slept with TEN different people already isnt prone to STD's, pregnancy or rumor being spread then you are being very naive. I never said it happens to women only, men are just as likely to get STD or have rumors spread about them. I never mention anything sexist, and i never said anything was GOING to happen, i said it does, and it does alot.So whether you want to believe that or not, it is a reality, it happens all the time. I never said that was going to happen to her i just gave her friendly advice.As far as the thread getting off track i answered her question about her hymen as well as putting my 2 cents about the sex thing. You act like this is the first thread in a2a to get taken off track, well it isnt, and its not the worst either. You guys fight all the time over stupid shit in pointless threads that are taken greatly off track, so if im not allowed to throw my 2 cents into this thread that isnt even off track, its still related to a sexual topic, then i guess all of A2A is wrong in making their post.

ok.....To answer the orignial question:If you didn't 'pop your cherry' the first time you had sex, it was probably all ready gone from using tampons etcI'd guess the blood was from somthing else, maybe you wern't lubricated enough and you got a small tear? I don't know but I'd assume it wasn't you hymen.