Allow me a moment to not be so humble but I work so hard in school and I think I'm a pretty smart girl shouldn't I be able to make my OWN decisions about where to go to college?? Did I seriously work this hard for 6 years just to be controlled and overpowered like a slave to Communism. Ok I'm overreacting but still... THIS IS SO UNFAIR!I love my mother to pieces and I would do anything for her but she's not letting me have a say in ANYTHING. She wants me to apply to Yale and Princeton and Upenn and Brown and I'm like ok sure but I'm really interested in the University of Chicago. And she's like "no!". Whyy???? What does she have against Chicago?? I know I work really hard in school and I'm glad I've made her proud but doesn't she understand that there's a slight chance I might not get into these ivy league schools? I mean I don't want to disappoint her but I'm really interested in Chicago and she is just completely against it. I even offered to pay for the application and work on the tuition and scholarship etc and she still says no. What is her problem?? Why doesn't she like Chicago? She won't even give me a chance. It's like what's the point. Honestly, I would love to give her that lap of luxury. I would like to become insanely wealthy from my own business and give her the life she never had and just spoil her senseless but honestly mother.... I'm blessed enough to even be leaving the JACKED UP SLUMS of Westchester. So far her only reasons she doesn't want me to go "it's too cold" so is NY. "It's too far away" I went to Japan for two weeks! This is ridiculous and her points are completely invalid. She's not giving me good enough reasons. The injustice!Seriously... I'm really pissed because she's not even giving me a chance. I don't know what to do... UGH!!! Por que mami por que??And one more thing. Would it be wrong if I just applied for it anyway? I don't want to disobey her... I've done a pretty good job thus far being honest with her and not talking back. It's not certain I'd get accepted. And even if I did she wouldn't take me or just like... I don't know this is so upsetting.. Am I foolish for not wanting to go to Princeton? She's not happy with me right now Why do I like UofCago so much? I don't know they just really caught my attention.
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This is so unfair!!
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I can understand how you're feeling must be frustrating for you. My parents are exactly the same, over controlling and don't want to let me, as their son go. You just need to realize that it's your personal decision, so even though your mother saying "no" might hurt, if you want to go to Chicago, you go to Chicago.What I do suggest is that you sit down with her and just talk. Just explain your reasons why you want to go, and try not to start the "but that's so unfair" situation. I know you're probably thinking "i've tried that, she won't listen." Chances are she is listening, but she won't admit that to herself, least of all you. A lot of talk is needed, and hopefully, she'll come around once she realizes that you'll benefit from your own happiness there.
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She wants me to apply to Yale and Princeton and Upenn and Brown and I'm like ok sure but I'm really interested in the University of Chicago. And she's like "no!".........Why doesn't she like Chicago? Why???? because the reputation of these schools is sooo much more superior to this Chicago school. That's why she wants you to go there. Is there a chance you can get in? Whats so special about U of C?
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"...if you want to go to Chicago, you go to Chicago."If mamma writtin' the check, even in part, mamma gonna have somethin' to say about it. Like it or not, fair or not, that's the way shit works.
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I don't see any harm in applying. It doesn't commit you to anything to apply. And you're right that there is no guarantee of getting into the ivy league schools. I know you're a great student, but there are a huge number of top students applying to those schools. I don't know if you have a career in mind, but if you do that makes a difference in terms of which school is most reputable in that field. I do know that U of Chicago is considered top notch in certain fields.
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Quote: there is no guarantee of getting into the ivy league schools.Exactly my point. And actually the majority of the money is coming when I turn 18 from a lawsuit that happened from a birth defect. Don't ask. But still, it's not that I don't like those schools but she needs to widen her options a little more.
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Do you have a school counselor you can talk to about these things? They've probably helped kids in these situations and could talk with your mom.Compromise also helps. Have you tried saying you'll apply to those if you can also apply to the University of Chicago?
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It's always worth getting opinions on different schools from professionals in the area of study you want to pursue. Quite often a university with a high reputation in general will have some departments that are not so good, so it can be misleading to go by general reputation. Getting opinions from people who really know would help bolster your case for where you apply - or help you change your mind.
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Yale, Princeton and Brown ...fuck i wish i had the brains for those schools. i've never heard of Upenn...... mustr be a school for brains too.
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Quote: If mamma writtin' the check, even in part, mamma gonna have somethin' to say about it. Like it or not, fair or not, that's the way shit works. true. I had no choice whatsoever.. I got into every school I applied to. My mom literally did everything and told me where to sign to go to the local school. Why chicago?
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School counselors are biased and don't help much. The one I usually go to is on vacation and won't be back for a while. I hope he wasn't fired because it's been.. a while.I don't know why I just really have an interest in Chicago. I've been speaking with some of the alumni from there and they've been so informative about the school and I really think they have what I want to be. I don't think I want to be a lawyer or doctor or something but then again that's what mother wants... sigh.
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Exactly, that's why she wants me going to these major colleges because they're all mainly focused on law and medical.
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Originally Posted By: JapanFan14I don't think I want to be a lawyer or doctor or something but then again that's what mother wants... sigh. It's far more important that you put your foot down about this than what school you attend. You need to major in and focus on what you want to do, not what your mother wants you to do.My dad alway used to say, "Education is what you put into it." He went to good law school, but it was no Harvard, and he was rated among the top ten criminal defence lawyers in the country for the last decade of his life. His biggest thrill was squashing ivy league Harvard graduate guys in the court room... he lived for it.I gotta say I believe he was 100% dead on. I didn't learn shit it school. I learned my craft from my own pursuits outside of school.I realize I'm diverging from my point but fuck it. Whatever you do don't let your mom dictate your profession. Be what you want to be.
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My mom gets like that aswell, I'm doing the whole applying to colleges thing too. She's hellbent on my doing dentistry, which is something I cannot even imagine myself doing. The first time I talked with her about it, I didn't get anywhere. It's taken a lot of just talking to her about it over the past year for her to back off a little. In the end it's your life and your future, but don't forget that your mom probably helped you, in some way, to get to where you're at now, actually having the opportunity to apply to college, I know mine did. Best of luck.