I don't know why. She's a little shy. She doesn't really have any hobbies. She's not retarded or weird looking or anything. It just amazes her I've been rolling with the same group of guys for 10+ years. I went to 1st grade with my BFF. He lived right behind me and we dug tunnels to each others yard when we were younger. This year at age 23 we both went to Hawaii for 10 days over spring break. We're close.Her though... not so much. She came here for college and is in her last semester before she (we) move so she can go to grad school. It's kind of sad. She doesn't have anything to do when we're not together, and no one to talk about me too. I have 1 buddy that is married that we can hang out with together but they have a kid on the way, so that has kind of stopped. The rest are just single guys. How I can I set my girlfriend up with other girls and make them become friends?She works at a small Japanese restaurant with a staff of 5 people. So, she can't really hang out with people from there. 1 is the manager, 2 are dudes that are cooks, and the other waitress she doesn't like. Tried to meet people at church. We're in the odd middle ground between parents making you go, and you going on your own. Where there's not a lot people are age.I need some "me" time, and she needs some "away from we" time. I just don't know how to go about it. Almost seems like an argument every time I want to go fishing, or have guy time, or go to the movies without her. thoughts?What do girls do?
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My girlfriend has no friends.
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Poor girl, that sucks.It's kind of weird hearing about a girl not having any... girl friends. I know I have tons upon tons upon tons of friends but a group of girl friends that I'm so closed to people think we're either related or lesbians. (Don't ask). Girls need their girls.I'm trying to think about what you're girlfriend can do to achieve more friends but I don't really know. It's not really a method or process as I see it. It's just something that naturally happens. Maybe she needs to find a club or something in her school or church or something where she can meet people that are interested in the same things that she is? Or... the library usually has many interesting people. If she really wants to meet some females she should try the hair salon, or nail salon... um... a large clothing department. I don't know I'm really reaching at this point. I met most of my friends from either school or church.
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I am same. I dont have any "girl" or " guy" friends irl. But I have many online...ok so I am addicted to net and most of my friends are online buddies!
I would suggest going to salons, malls, cafes hanging out and chatting with other girls who knows she may find some good friends there. Church, library, school....as Abi says are also good places to start new friendships.
You said she has no hobbies, I find it sad. Introduce her to something she will enjoy in her free time while you have some "guy time". If she has any interests ask her to explore them further in free time. (example) Maybe she can try cooking...new random recipes of the net is fun and you can also enjoy dinner together when you get back from fishing.
I have a lot of hobbies though I am a loner, but I am happy.
You could ask her to join any type of club/groups at school or online. There are countless possibilities but it has to be in her heart to look for some friends and find someone to hang out with. If there aint no effort (like me...i am pretty lazy) to make friends then you wont find any.
Or the alternate idea I have (in case she doesnt want to look around for a friend).....is get her a pet if she likes animals or maybe plants if she likes those. Its nice and relaxing, also a pet does keep you busy and smiling.
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Quote:What do girls do? My wife is a loner type, too plus she loves her home time, but I can't sit still but our trick is she's got her hobbies, so if your wife could find something she enjoys as a hobby, she could pursue that while you do your "guy thing". And once she finds a hobby she can find others who enjoy the same one - amazing how far a small common bond will go.
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sounds a bit like my ex wife.she would complain that all our friends were my friends but she would never reach out to her own friends. She had many but she let them all drift away over the the years, yet somehow blamed me for isolating her.She's actually crazyThe reason we're not together any more is that she started making friends online and falling in love with a kid less than half her age... she's actually crazy, did I mention that?Your g/f may not be crazy but keep your eyes open, just in case.
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This is kinda like the plot of "i love you man" but reversed roles, lol.
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Good. Keep it that way. Trust me, a girl with friends is a bad idea.