I'm a junior now and I started going to a 'alternative school' because my attendance at my regular high school was very bad last january and i met this girl there that was very, VERY pretty at the orientation for it because she didnt like the people at her old school and i met her again that week and started talking but since i get very anxious around people in general i wasn't very interesting to talk to but we did talk sometimes and we were partners for a lot of stuff(and she would always sit next to me even if there wasnt a chair there she would bring one to the spot that i was sitting next to(there was no seating arrangements)) up until the school year was over and we never hung out after school ( mainly my fault i never asked alot because i was scared of me bombing it if we hungout) so it didnt go to far but i tryed to keep hold of our thread of a relationship by basically following her and going to a summer school class with her for history(which i DID need so it wasnt all about her) but she never went after that because she didnt really need it and the teacher was a jerk to her. i would text her sometimes but neither of us really like to text because it feels pretty impersonal but for me its one of the most comfortable ways to talk to someone. i recently messaged her last week that she was veryyyy pretty and that i've wanted to tell her that for months and she took it positively but i wasnt expecting to continue anything with her at all because she goes to a different school and she has a boyfriend that shes been going out with for a year thats in the army (shes 16 he must be 18 or 19) but now i saw a few pictures of her from a yearbook from last year and i cant help but be reminded of her and want to talk to her but i have nothing to say that would interest her at all and im going crazy PS. she's really nice and smokes pot while i dontadvice anyone i don't know who to ask and its driving me nuts
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What do i do?!
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Welcome to A2A, schawdaya.I'm afraid if she has a boyfriend, she's taken, and you should concentrate more on handling the next girl better. Especially:1. Leave it to her to decide if she likes you or not - don't decide yourself you are no good. You don't have a good basis for deciding that, and it's rude to her to not allow her to make her own decision.2. "Faint heart ne'er won fair lady" - if you want a girl to be a girlfriend you have to work on the relationship and do stuff. In our culture it is usually expected that the male will take the lead, so you need to ring her regularly and ask her out on dates.
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I never expected to make her my girlfriend if shes with her boyfriend i was actually hoping someone could give me advice to become good friends with her because id rather have that than just not talk to her.
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Anybody?
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Meh i might as well give it a shot i guess.And yeah it is in Minnesota
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I read it word for word but by i answered an hour after i read it, and i don't feel like giving up on her yet.