Not too long after I moved in with my boyfriend we stopped having sex as much as we usually did.I always figured it was just because we had been together for almost a year and the commodity of it had worn off. We still had sex like once a week but it started getting less and less. Well we we're fighting the other day. And we we're talking about it last night. Actually we we're talking about our entire relationship and trying to decide if we should stay together at all. He still loves me. And I still love him but i was afraid of being stuck in a sexless relationship.I finally got him to admit that we weren't having sex as much because I've gained too much weight and he basically just can't get it up for me. He says he doesn't mean to be shallow he just can't help it. I guess I can understand. You can't force yourself to get it up. I just don't know what to do right now. I'm not freakishly obese. I started off at about 165 when we started dating. Back then I ate a lot of diabetic food because i lived with my diabetic father. When i moved in with him we ate a lot of fast food and free food from the Pizza Hut we work at. So now I kind of fluctuate between 195 and 205. I would love to get liposuction and have that quick easy fix. Then it would be easier to exercise and stay in better shape because i wouldn't be lugging all the extra fat around. I just don't think I would be able to afford it and I think my boyfriend would get mad at me for taking such a drastic short cut.I just need to exercise and stop eating the crap I eat but it's so hard when I'm pretty short on cash most of the time it's just easier and cheaper to get food from work or a fast food place. And it's terribly hard to exercise when I'm so out of shape.I know it's no excuse though.
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I've found out that our lack of sex is my fault.
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If you want to lose the wait, lose it for yourself not for him. In the end, doing this for you, will make you more determined and pleased with yourself.Exercising... it just has to be done, no matter how hard it is to find the time. Eating healthy... I know it's hard especially when you don't have the money but do it anyway. Frozen vegetables or canned fruit (not in syrup) aren't too bad price wise, and are healthier than what you are eating, if you can't get or can't afford fresh. Do your best to eat healthy. There are far more reasons for it than just losing weight. If I remember right, one guy on this site puts at least some blame for his serious IBS on eating crap food all the time while working at a fast food joint in his youth.Liposuction has it's own list of risks and if you don't change your lifestyle the weight will come back anyway.
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Originally Posted By: OldFolks If I remember right, one guy on this site puts at least some blame for his serious IBS on eating crap food all the time while working at a fast food joint in his youth. Yeppers that was me. People REALLY need to think hard before putting foods into their body, it can really affect you long term. Take the time to make smart healthier choices, you'll be happier with yourself later for doing it!!
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I seriously, seriously felt like i was reading something i wrote.. I probably wrote about this exact thing within the last year or so. I also gained a lot of weight because i ate pizza hut ALL the time.. (soo good tho).. and my boyfriend felt the same way yours does. If he really loves you.. he will stick with you for reasons that arent based on your appearance.
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I tried going out for a jog today. I got half way through my jog route from before I gained my weight and I thought I was going to suffocate. Then shortly there after I tripped over my own feet and twisted an ankle. Now I have a mild sprain. As for my boyfriend I have no doubt that he loves me and that he will stay with me. It's just that the physical part of the relationship is just not there anymore. Not saying it's the most important part of a relationship but it is a part of a good relationship and I really need to fix myself to save it. What distresses me so bad is that it's been like this for almost a year now and I believed him when he said he just wasn't in the mood and he still found me attractive. He didn't want to hurt my feelings but ended up hurting them anyways by lying to me for so long and letting me make it worse by continuing my unhealthy habits.
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The beginning of walking a mile is the first step. Unfortunately, the sprain will make it difficult for a while, but don't get discouraged. Keep up the good beginning. The end is what's important, not the pebbles along the way.
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Your ankle will be better in a few weeks.
At that point just start off a little easier.. go for long walks.. speed walks.. grab your ipod.
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I can see where you're coming from...There is always hope in everything.Self discipline is the best cure for that matter.I know, a lot of people are feeling the same way, too.Delicious Foods are tempting, YEAH! But I wanna share you my secret in treating foods before I let them get in to my body is to ask myself first:Is this beneficial to my body?Does it gives me assurance to stay healthy and fit?My Dear, think about it:) Regular exercise really helps a lot.GOOD LUCK...
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Remember, exercise alone does not take the weight off your body. You must eat right (reduce calorie intake) to lose weight.
