For a friend so deeply depressed

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Hi guys,now i don't want to waste you guys time with this story but I don't know where else to turn and I need some heavy advice for this girl before she goes crazy and kills her self. Okay now to the point.

I have this friend,let's call her Eleni, now Eleni met this really perfect guy who is 25 years old,when she met him he had a girlfriend but she fell in love with him and I don't blame her. He is this really great guy who is sensitive and sweet and everything the perfect guy would be,she fell like a ton of bricks for him and went downhill from there.
She changed into this girl who was always smiling and happy an jovial. The tears came when she began to wonder if he would leave his girlfriend to be with her.

Her friends even me told her to find a man of her own but like me she wouldn't listen,now you u can see how much she loves him and I can see that he loves her.

To the problem,there is this other woman who he says is his good friend but the way they act its suspicious,she sits on his lap and leans on him and Eleni believes that they have something going on and she can't shake this feeling of dread,she cries in secret and turns to this other guy for comfort who her boyfriend thinks is supposed to be his competition. But if you look at this girl it's amazing,she has no eyes for no one else and is there wasting away,she worries because he does not say "I love you" anymore and the intimate way that he used to act with her is no longer the same,let me add that they sleep in the same bed and most times he won't touch her. I know for the past couple of nights he have not slept home and she is worried out of her mind.

The other thing he is still with is girlfriend, I want to know what should she do,she loves him and is hurting so much on the inside and I hate to see her like this.HELP US!!!!!!!!

Let me get this straight, this guy has a girlfriend, but is messing around with your friend, AND has this other girl on the side?

Do you see anything wrong with this picture? This guy is a player and no where near perfect. He's playing games and isn't faithful to anyone.

Tell your friend that this guy does not love her and is only using her. He's not worth it and she needs to move on to better things.

Quote:Tell your friend that this guy does not love her and is only using her. He's not worth it and she needs to move on to better things. That sounds right to me. However, she seems to have the guy so idealised in her mind that it's going to be pretty difficult for her to let go. There is a good chance that she will also turn against whomever tells her to move on along. Be kind, and understanding towards her. It's not going to be easy, if that's what you choose to do that is.smiles

But what if she is treating him cold and won't speak to him,how bout that

I'm so sorry, I'm really confused. So this guy has a girlfriend and is seeing your friend behind her back? And now she's jealous because he has a girlfriend and won't speak to him??

Originally Posted By: capriprincessBut what if she is treating him cold and won't speak to him,how bout that I say good for her. There's no reason for her to feel guilty for not talking to him. He's the one messing around with three girls at the same time.

who said she was jealous, she knew about the girl from the beginning and decided to go ahead with it

So why is she upset now?

she's upset about the girl on the other side not the girlfriend.

Why is she not upset about the girlfriend?

Originally Posted By: capriprincessshe's upset about the girl on the other side not the girlfriend. That makes no sense. How can she be upset about the third girl, but not bothered by the girlfriend?But what's even more mind-boggling is how she willing decided to get invovled in the first place.

Thats what I'm asking too..

Because she knows bout her and she loves him enough that she won't trouble him and pressure him to leave her.

Originally Posted By: capriprincessBecause she knows bout her and she loves him enough that she won't trouble him and pressure him to leave her. That's not love, that's just asinine.

So, if she knows he loves her, then why is she bothered about girl number three? But thats still just plain silly. I just don't understand. Maybe she should talk to the girlfriend.

Why should she do that and what would she have to say.

Ok, so I wasn't being completely serious, but how can she not accept the third girl? And would the guy not have told her if something was going on considering he told her he has a girlfriend already?

Why should she do that??Um, why are you trying to defend with what you're friend is going through? I thought you wanted to help her. This isn't a pleasent situation she got herself into and the only way to get through it if she leaves.Just talk to your friend and tell her to get out now before things get worse. Tell her this guy is no good for her and to find someone who isn't invovled already.ADDED: And I'm still confused as to why she's bothered by the third girl. That's quite a noodle scratcher. But I guess it really doesn't matter. What's important is for your friend to leave this guy. She's not in love, she only think she is and it's only going to get worse if she doesn't wake up.

One second, does the girlfriend know about her?

Good question, though I'm sure whatever the answer is, it's going to make this sticky situation even stickier.That's why I say this guy is no good. He's fooling around with three girls and playing with their emotions. How messed up is that?