Girlfriend and Sex Problems

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Alright here are my problems. I go to college and my girlfriend is in high school. We get to see each other about once a week. maybe twice a week. even both weekend days if i go home for the weekend. the thing is we've had sex maybe 4 times since i moved in at the end of august. I feel like when we do it she doesn't even really want to do it. She can't even remember the last time she thought about sex. she say's "it's just sex". I don't understand this at all. like when we first started dating wed fool around every time now it's like once every 4-5 times if i'm lucky. Yes i love her and i know I probably sound like im just in it for the sex. I'm not. I'm 18 i can't help myself. I masturbate now more than i ever have before. at least once a day if not 2 times. She used to masturbate alot also about a year and 2 months ago is when she slowed down (also when she met me). The worst part is i feel like I'm bad at it or just ugly so she doesnt wanna do it. I don't even like hound her for sex. I'll admit i've done that probably like 5 times or so i know i shouldn't i already learned from that mistake. Does anybody know if it's normal for a 17 year old girl to not even remember the last time she thought about sex? I don't wanna hear any crap about stress either that's the dumbest excuse ever. how can having too much to do make you wanna not do something fun when you have the chance. That's illogical. I also feel like her lack of sexual attraction makes this relationship feel less together. Does anybody know any tips that i could do to make things happen more? Am i normal for wanting to do it as much as we used to do? I've always had that sexual fantasy of like waking up and like having her there like playing with me and then like getting a blowjob. That would be like the best thing i ever. And i've heard so many times of girls doing that with their men. She also has told me she has no sexual fantasy or fetish and i think thats BS. All feedback is appreciated. Thanks PS- sorry for the crappy grammar was just trying to type this fast and i haent slept in a long time

Why do you feel it's BS???.. She just may be asexual.. There are people out there who really have no desire or thoughts about sex.

Quote:Does anybody know if it's normal for a 17 year old girl to not even remember the last time she thought about sex?Well, I'm a girl so maybe I'll fit the job description of getting her perspective on things! I, being completely and truly honest, don't think about sex often. The last time I thought of it? Now, because you mentioned it. Before that? No idea. It's not the number one topic on my mind!  Quote:She also has told me she has no sexual fantasy or fetish Assuming I correctly understand these two things, I don't either. And that's not ''BS''. Quote:Does anybody know any tips that i could do to make things happen more?Have you tried talking to her about it? smiles

of course i have. I don't understand any of that shit. and i mean never. she like never thinks of it. and also she used to be different and now its just whatever

try foreplay? if you ignore it, and don't talk about it, it will happen ... may take a few weeks of her not getting any hints from you, but put up with it and the reward will be awesome...even if you are together, and start getting to the make out, and she says something like "do we have to" or "I know what that kiss means" say to her that she doesn't have to, and continue doing with you're doing...she will appreciate that, and may even get more into it from that ..... good luck

Hey, welcome back!

thanks, just a random stop by, thought i'd help them out

I don't know smiles is supposed to mean, I'm guessing you're just being friendly, but when conveyed through text, especially after handing out advice it comes across as condescending.Just a bit of advice.smiles

Holy Shit, I was just thinking about you the other day.It's good to hear from you.

I've written it since the first time I've posted here. It's hardly condescending, never was, never will be.

It's simply a reminder to smile, because, personally, I believe staying as positive as possible throughout the majority of situations helps with dealing with them .

I have never either on this web site, or on the average day-to day basis, been ''condescending'' in any way at all, but simply tried to give the best possible advice. Feel free to check my previous posts.

*smiles*

Hows about you just give her a little time. I understand that you want to have sex with her, but just try to give her a bit of a break. When you talk with her ask her (in a nice, gentle way, at an appropriate time) if everythings okay.  Quote:how can having too much to do make you wanna not do something fun when you have the chance. That's illogical.You said you don't want to hear about her being stressed, however, that may very well be the reason. If she has schoolwork and extracurriculars and all sorts of other things, she may feel very bogged down, and may not want to get distracted. Just be patient, and be there for her!smiles

Because the two of you don't get to see each other as often as you used to it might seem to her that when you do get to see each other it is all about sex. If that's all you do when you're with her is try to have sex then she could start feeling like that's all you want her for.

If she is on any kind of birth control that can also lower libdo. Just a thought.