Lately I've noticed that when I have sex with a woman I'm not as hard as I'd like and I have to constantly masturbate to the point of ejaculation before I'm even rigid enough to enter her. Obviously this is a problem as it lessens her pleasure greatly and I feel like an idiot wanking myself while she sits there. She says it's "hot to watch a guy do that" and she's very attractive, even a great deal of foreplay while I masturbate will not bring me to a full erection like it should.I have no idea what it could be other than strange instances of ED. At times I'll be fine and can go all night, I'll get stiff just watching TV or wake up with morning wood. I know my penis works as I can masturbate on my own easily. It's just when I get with her I fail. As far as I can tell it's psychological, mostly I think too much about the situation rather than pleasure.I can easily get her off with my hand or mouth, but she does like plain old sex every once in a while so I'm worried. Thoughts? Comments? I need a distraction or some kind of mental help that will let me keep stiff for her. I like sex... when I'm able to have it...
Hey,Sounds to me more like performance anxiety, if you can get past that initial issue you'll be fine Some of my friends use a product called Kamagra, which is apparently the herbal version of Viagra, available OTC... if you're that worried, you can always try a tab of that, after your initial issues, you'll be fine ... Personally, I've never used it, so I can't tell you all the details on it, though I know people who have and they don't seem to have any issues Mainly though, in my opinion, just enjoy yourself, the more you worry the worse you'll make yourself, just chillax
Since it works at other times it's not physical ED, and it's probably worry because it's happened before - it happens once, and you worry it will happen again and so it does, and then you worry more . . .But with time it gets better, and the less you think about it the better. If you can use the morning, when your energy and testosterone levels are highest and you have morning wood to help, it will help bring your confidence back.