So, I feel as God is just screwing with me for fun at this point. I can't say anything in particular in my life has been just horrible. But not so much fun either.So, as I should mentioned, I've never had a girlfriend in my own damn state. I've had several, but I always had to travel out of state to see them or get them to travel in state.I finally met a girl, I thought I might have had a chance with. Damn shame I was wrong. I really liked her, but I never told her, and I finally told her and at first I thought lucky me, because I just so happened to catch her the day she broke up her boyfriend.But nah, turns out she's already dead set on some other guy and it's apparently basically constructed they'll go out in February, they'd be going out now, but out of respect she says she won't date another guy until it's been a month.So here I am sitting watching the girl I like be single, but I still can't have her because she's basically taking. Then there was the valentines dance, oh but lucky me when she was originally going to go to that with me so I could at least have a day with her as basically mine. Nope, turns out her school decided to have homecoming on that day. Failsauce.Then! Of course a bigger screw you, I've met 2 girls online who seem to be crazy about me. One of them has an awesome personality and is pretty cute. But she's 2500 miles away -.- Another one, has an amazing body, a decent personality, she doesn't fit quite as well as the other girl, but damn she's cute... Still 550 miles away. And only 15. good game. I'm turning 18 so not only is her mom not going to let that happen even if I had a way to visit her. she's way to young for me to feel like waiting around till she's old enough to do whatever she wants.And even if she was 17 like me. 550 miles is still out of my reach. The furthest I attempted was 425 and that failed in the end.(Too long didn't read version)So it just feels like God is like. Here's an awesome girl in your area, btw she ain't going to go out with you.Feel down? Don't worry here's 2 awesome girls who'll totally dig you... btw they're way to far away for you to even pretend you have a shot of dating.I played the game and clearly I lost o_O
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Ah-Ha! I caught you!
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I'll bet there are at least 5 (probably more) girls you could date within a square mile from where you live. Problem is they constitutue a minute fraction of what you'll find online. I mean think about it...how many thousands of square miles on this planet; what are the chances that somebody you meet online is going to be in one of those square miles that's close to you. You know, you need to spend less time looking on the computer and more time looking around you. Coffee shops and fast-food joints are great for meeting girls in your age-range. Plenty of those at the mall...get out from behind that computer and go have a look-see.Oh...and FWIW, God helps those who help themselves. God will not tie your shoes for you...He will not do something for you that you are capable of doing for yourself.
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damn that sucks, I've never once met a girl I liked that was single.
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While your message sounds logical and sound. I can destroy it in one word.Woods.I live about 10 miles from a town. And don't get me wrong. I get out. I go to a dance community a couple times a week and I'm around easily 200+ girls. varying from 14-25. It's not like I don't get out there and try.I don't spend as much time as you might think online, Sure you probably see my posts are 4-5am. But most of the time, I'm out working on my dads farm, boxing. Working on my own house. or out dancing. I actually get out a lot. Our mall however. is a piece of shit. The only likely thing you'll meet there is the Devil.And, while your God helps those who help themselves thing would sound encouraging 4 or so years ago. For the past couple of years I've been busting my ass off. And never got even close to what I wanted.I wanted abs, just basic ones. I lost 115 pounds, gave up fast food gave up soda, gave up all my habits, ate healthy, diet, did cardio. Picked up dancing, Picking up boxing. Varied even went all out and did 2000 crunches a day on top of an hour and a half on the exercise bike, but in the end, all I have to show for it is slightly toner arms and legs. my chest hasn't changed at all regardless of the work outs I did and my 6pack really doesn't show anymore at 150 than it did at 265.Then I got a girlfriend about 400 miles from me, but her personality the things she did the way she thought, looked, just everything about her was amazing. I busted my ass off for weeks to get a surplus of money to go see her. But where did that get me? No where in particular, she decided between her mom and her best friend hating my guts (mainly because I was an unknown) and the fact I couldn't spend a bunch of time with her she couldn't handle the distance, and figured seeing me would just hurt her because she couldn't see me often. (Her of course being 18 =/ )The real pisser is, that I had it set to see her for a week straight once a month, which happens to be a lot more than she sees her boyfriend, who lives about 10 miles from her.So seriously, it's not like I don't try to help myself.And I mean, I didn't see absolutely nothing out of it, I mean I'm 115 pounds lighter and at the time I had a good bit of cash on me, that I ended up spending on other people anyways.But I've seen people work a hell of a lot less and have waaaaay more to show for it. I just feel like lifes comic relief.
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Hmmm...you've listed lots of reasons why you can't, but don't seem to be open to reasons why you can. Is your post just venting, cause if it is, that's legit. But if you want something to change for you, then you've got to change something. If nothing changes, nothing changes.Yep...I'm preaching to myself as well.
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women can smell desperation. Just chill and all will be well. You're young, you have a whole life ahead of you that will be filled with the wrong women and a few of the right ones. Take it from me, I've been around"God helps those who help themselves" Yes, I too enjoy helping people who need no help, it's easier that way
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Originally Posted By: thor
Oh...and FWIW, God helps those who help themselves.
Not true.
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I think it's actually a Ben Franklin quote.not to mention that it's a bit anti-biblical in a few ways.Proverbs 28:26 for example or even Jeremiah 17:5I like Franklin, he was a great thinker. This particular quote never really made much sense to me though.
