For over one year my dad said he would buy me a used car for Christmas (I've had my license for over six months). Then we got into one fight earlier this week and he said he's not getting me one. I was really depressed and I cried because he lied to me and said he'd give it to me. He has the money to afford one and he refuses to buy me one. I was looking so forward to having one and showing my friends. I haven't talked to my dad in three days and I don't know if I should keep talking to him. My mom tells me to act nice and maybe he'll change his mind. I've been saying to my mom and some of my friends that I hate my dad, but I'm just saying that because I'm angry at him (it's not really true). Now I have to trick my dad into giving it to me by lying to him about why I'll need a car. Should I continue to say that I hate him and act nicer? I don't know if he'll change his mind or not, but I was looking so forward to getting a car and then having the gift that every teenager wants taken away.
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My dad lied to me
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Welcome to A2A, Holidays16. Being given a car by parents and not being given a car is a big difference, and it tends to be luck which side you fall on. I wasn't given one. It's a sizable expense that some parents consider too much for a gift. Perhaps your father had already been having second thoughts. (Or perhaps he hadn't found anything suitable in time.)Going around saying that you hate him and that he lied to you is not going to be helpful. Trying to trick your dad won't be helpful either - it will probably be very obvious. Nor does it help to stop speaking to him - anything where he feels under pressure may just harden his resolve. I'd suggest you try to act nicely to him, and see what happens, and be patient.
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My mom has 2 cars, and my dad was going to buy one of them (they're divorced). I can't have my mom's old car b/c it's too big, and my dad is so stupid b/c he wanted earlier this month and now he's being an idiot by not asking for it b/c of one thing I said to him. My dad is so difficult to work with, and is so argumentive, which is kind of why I haven't talked to him tomorrow. It seems to me and my mom that he cares more about his girlfriend and her son than me. He and my mom were going to trade cars next week, and now he doesn't want to. And I'm stuck with my parents driving me around when all my friends already have cars now.
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Don't forget that if your father is difficult and argumentative, it's likely at least some of that has passed on to you also. We can never see our own less-than-ideal character traits as easily as we see those of others.
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The best things in life aren't things. Cherish and nurture what you have, and you'll be blessed with more.If you act like a spoiled bratty teenager, you'll only serve to drive him away - and you won't be driving that car!