I've been going out with this girl for two and a half months. I know thats not a long time but we've been pretty damn happy together. but today I am talking to a girl I knew online and she has given me an open invitation to hang out with her, I also feel like I have been leading her on a little. but the thing is I got butterflys in my stomach like I sort of had a small thing for her but I've never talked to her before today and now I think I like her. we have alot in common... alot. maybe alittle more than me and my current girlfriend. but I'm not sure what I should do.[list][*]null
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Goddammit
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Before I make a reply, is this internet girl somone you will ever meet or have ever met, or is she just a girl in cyberspace?
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When you're going out with someone, it doesn't stop yourself from being interested in other possibilities. But if you always take up the latest possibility, you'll never have a relationship that lasts very long.
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well to answer the first persons question. she is a girl who I have met and I do have a chance to hang out with her again. not just a cyberspace interest she actually lives closer to me than my current girlfriend. and the funny thing is that, today when I got into coversation with her I told her that I saw her while I was on tour at the college that she goes to and she kept saying that I should go there and that it has a good film program, which I an interested in, and she said something like, it is a great campass but thats not a hint that you should go or anything, that's not what she said but it was similar, and she gave me hints like that. but I started thinking while we were talking about films that we really like (which were pretty much the same) my current girlfriend is 15 I'm 18 and this girl that I was talking to is 19, I was thinking that maybe I need a girl who is closer to my age that knows a little bit more about relationships and can stimulate my interests more. she also asked if I owned any of the movies that I was talking about, which maybe I am being a little sensitive but seemed like maybe she wanted to hang out and watch them. I don't know if that would be considered cheating if we hung out, I think my girlfriend would think of it as cheating, but I dont know. I just see it as testing this girl out (not to seem sexist or like a stereotypical guy). I dont know tell me what you think...
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I'm sorry if I over answered your question hahaha
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No worries, the longer the better! What Inelgible said, if you jump continuously you'll never have a lasting relationship is true. However, if you feel you would be better off with the girl from the internet, as in you have more in common and would get along better with, you're not really going to be able to stop thinking about it, which would in turn be unfair towards your current girlfriend. As for the ''cheating'', if you hung out with another girl, unless she feels secure in your relationship (after two and a half months it doesn't seem likely), your girlfriend would be quite jealous; which is quite understandable. Reverse roles, how would you feel if she started hanging out with a college freshman by herself, no matter how much she protested it was purely platonic. Personally, this is just my opinion and will differ from person to person, it's not really fair to ''test the waters'' while in a relationship. Unless of course your current other half knows about and has agreed to this. Does your current girlfriend know about Internet girl?
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yeah sunshine you're right I would be jealous if my girlfriend started hanging out with some guy. no she doesnt know about the internet girl.