Hi this is crazy, i really need help with this asap.I met this girl on saturday at a party, and we hung out a little bit, i never got her number or anything. But i had a great time and it was a lot of fun, i later n thought about her, but was like oh well i guess i wont see her again....Well on New Years Eve, i was at another party and i saw her again, she went there with another guy, but i didnt see her kiss him, they were just dancing and hanging out. When it was a minute before new years, i was just hanging out, when she came and approached me and asked if i wanted to be her new years kiss. Of course i said yes so, on New Years i kissed her.Later on we ended up hanging out w/e and exchanged phone numbers. She told me she was 18 and whatever, and i told her i was 20.Well over the past few days i can not stop thinking about her. We have spent hours on the phone and talk everyday. We played this game where we tell facts about each other and ask questions. She told me she was a hopeless romantic, and that she thinks she is ready to fall in love. She seams to be the type of person who has been through a lot in her life, and is very mature. At the same time she seams like a crazy, and wild girl. when i met her she had her hair dyed blonde, but when we were talking on the phone she told me she dyed it pink recently. She has gages, and tattoo's, and even a tongue ring. She even smokes ciggaretes like i do.The more i find out about her the more amazed i am, we have both been in relationships that lasted over 2 years, and we have both been cheated on in relationships. We both have the perfect idea of what love is, and will not settle for anything else. And we are both hopeless romantics. But she told me recently that she never lies, the only thing she lied to me about was that she is really 16, she says that she did that it save my ass, and she believes she has lived beyond her years. She is a model and an aspiring writer who is trying to publish a book on spirituality, finding herself, and coping through hard situations. She says She has pretty much no friends under 18, and i have been completly intrigued by her.She told me she wanted to come down and see me for the weekend. She doesnt live with her dad, he travels everywhere so she lives with her sister, and it was okay. 1.The question is...Is there somethi9ng wrong with me!!??Am i a bad person for being so interested in a girl who is 16, when i am only 20?2. Is it possible for people who are 4 years age gap to date, and really have somthing meaningful and good? 3. I am honestly not a creepy guy who hits on younger girls, this has honestly never happened to me before, so its a little scarry for me. But at the same time its so surreal that i met some1 who shares the same value's and beliefs as me. And has been through all the drama, and shit in life like i have.
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Im 20 she is 16, Is there something wrong? help
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I know this was really long, but please help me out, and dont judge me or criticise me...im not like some crazy dateline NBC crazy predator, i fucking hate old creeps like that
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well to be honest... depending on what state you're in the age is illegal. But I can't say anything against that considering my own situation is similar.The fact that she said she "never lies" IS A LIE. She's have to be Ghandi or Mother Theresa to never lie. Everyone lies it's human nature. I don't feel too comfortable about her saying that she's "ready to fall in love" and that she's a "hopeless romantic". Especially if she's been in a relationship for over 2 years. I guess everyone is different but when I got out of a long relationship I wasn't ready for love AT ALL. I just wanted to be alone. The only thing is... I'm just bothered by the fact that she said she's "ready to fall in love". Kind of gives me the impression she doesn't even know what love is. There are some people who are beyond their years but that line sounds pretty immature to me. Overall, she sounds like a great girl. I say go for it. BUT take it sloooowwww. Be very careful. No one is the same but young teenage girls especially those that lie about their age can be very tricksy and sometimes will do anything to get in a relationship with an older guy. Good luck
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Its really not that big of a deal. Her parents may not like it.. be careful there!
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To me, nothing is wrong with the age difference. I met my boyfriend (now of 3yrs) when I had just turned 16, at a party while I was with my ex. Kinda weird how things work out sometimes... He was 19 when we met then turned 20 like a month later. If u like her go for it! Don't let age be a factor if you both like each other so much. you may miss out on something great. good luck!
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same age difference for me except i was 18 and he was 21
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Some people see age as a barrier, heck people advised my lovely lady not to be with me on here because I'm significantly older than her (8 years) but it's really nothing, not where matters of the heart are concerned! I never thought I'd end up in love the way I am, and the more my friends have found out about it, the more I've actually uncovered that age really isn't a factor!!Heck, one of my bessie female friends parents have a 12 year age gap... they've been together 27 years now apparently!!! heh hehThe factor occurs in my humble opinion when it's only for the sake of "the game" (for lack of a better term) that single men seem to play: when it's nothing to do with love, and all about the notches on the bedpost.We can't help who we fall for, so I really don't see any issue, as long as you love her or feel as though you could MD
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Damn thanks guys, I think i really want to give this a shot. I mean to me I really want to find some1 i like , not just a hook up.
whatwould my parents would say...her parents are cool with it, but i dont want mine to think im some guy who hits on young high school girls.
And my friends are going to give me sooo much shit, i mean i do care what my friends think, and they are prob gonna be like "dude why the fuck are u dating a 16 year old your fucking 20"...
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I think its the fact that im 20 and she is still considered a minor, thats what worries me.
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Originally Posted By: takumi10I think its the fact that im 20 and she is still considered a minor, thats what worries me. And well it should worry you. The age of consent in Arizona is 18 I believe, so be careful you don't get involved in anything sexual. You say that her parents are cool with the idea of you two dating, but that could change in a heartbeat and you could find yourself charged with statutory rape if you have sex with her before she's 18.I'm not saying that she's too young for you; only that you're taking a big risk. For the next two years, no sex for you. Otherwise you could be spending a few years in prison and you'd probably get more sex than you wanted. Just not the type you wanted.
