For everyone's sake, I'm going to TRY to make a long story relatively short!I've had the same boyfriend on-and-off for going on 5 years now (since we were both 14). We've broken up twice in those past 5 years...once was for about three weeks a very long time ago, and recently we were broken up for several months. After we broke up, I met a guy that I worked with and we ended up dating, which didn't last very long before I realized that I missed my ex.We recently got back together after a long time of being just friends again and trying to just kind of "start over". I just spent the past week with him at his parent's house before we go back to school for the semester, and we had a great time. That is, until he felt the need to "come clean" about all the stuff he had done while we were broken up. He told me about the girls he had sex with (just for the hell of it. he claims he was depressed over our breakup and wasn't thinking straight when he did it)...The thing that bothers me the most is that we were both virgins when we had sex together for the first time, and it meant a lot to us both. Now it just hurts me to know that I'm not his only one anymore, but at the same time I feel like a hypocrite because I also had sex with my boyfriend that I met at work. But it just makes me so mad that he would be with other girls that he didn't even care about. Especially because one of them was his ex from a long time ago that cheated on him, and I'm the one who was there for him (back when him and I were just friends) when that all happened. Deep down, I know I should probably just get over it. I can't let this ruin our relationship again, and I should just appreciate his honesty. Right now, though, I am extremely hurt. Any advice?
How to just suck it up and move on...?
u just need to try to forget about those thoughts. You guys are together now and are trying to make things work. They won't work if you have these thoughts that are sure to repulse you and turn you off from the relationship.
As I understand it, you know that you have to accept that things happened to him while you were apart, just as they happened to you, and you must not let them come between you. The difficulty is in doing it. I can only suggest time. With time, things that once seemed impossible to accept or bear become the new starting point, and then you can move on.
Start out slooooooow.
Dont rush into things, because it will just get messy. Maybe even for a while, you can just date casually, until you get over what happened while you two were split. I'd be hurt if my boyfriend slept with someone that cheated on him too.