I moved into my aunts in september. I got a job, and my boyfriend moved out there for school. He had a roomate and a spare room at the time. He didnt want me to move in because it was to soon. I understood. Later I find out I more than likely cant move back into my aunts after christmas. meanwhile, the bf gets his friend to move into the spare room. and then he tells me that he was okay with me moving into the spare room. But its too late now. And he doesnt want to kick his friend out. even though he has no money, hes drawing EI and he doesnt have a job. he just plays games and dirties up the damn apartment. Now im planning on going back to town in a week or two, and I want to move in with the bf, because my aunt and uncle and their family is very tense, and have a lot of issues going on. I dont want to dish out 400-500 dollars a month in rent to stay with strangers. fuck that. Im at the bfs 3-4 nights a week anyways. Im crying. I dont know what to do. and the thing is, his roommate, lived with people about a 10 minute walk from where my boyfriend lives. so i dont even understand why he offered him the place anyways! I talked to the bf, and he regrets not getting me to stay there. he really misses me, and hes so upset about me possibly not coming out. he said he will mention it to his roommate that moved into the spare room. Theres another roomie, but he moved in the same time as Steve, so I dont think he should move out. I feel completely shunned. Like Im this huge burden on people. I feel so unwanted. the bf feels horrible, and I just dont know what to do anymore. my aunt said its not me, just they dont have a lot of room because of family issues. I did so much for this guy. I changed my life for him. I picked up, and moved out of my parents house, and moved in to my aunts (I hate it there!) I work at a shitty job, just to be doing somehting out there until school starts in september. and it hurts because its like im putting the majority of the effort in. If he was in my situation, I would kick out the roommate. because it would have been my fault he moved in, in the first place. It's only until April that i need a place.Someone help?
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Moving issues..
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You could stay with me, Ashley, but I doubt my wife would like it.You don't have to tell your bf about the last part, though. Maybe some jealousy would help to change his mind.
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he needs to grow up and start looking for a place with you... just you two and noone elsethat is, if he's serious
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hes serious..the night we went to bed together on new years, i asked him what his plan in september. and he said "well I dont normally think that far..." and i went silent and he goes "well, i'd like it if we moved in together"..It made me really happy.thing is, thats 8 1/2 months from now. he told me hes committed to me too. and that the thought of being with just me doesnt scare him.he doesnt want to kick his friend out. if it were me, I would for him. Maybe im just a bitch. lolhe feels absolutely horrible. Like its partially his fault. and the thing is, it slightly is. If he wanted me in town enough, he shouldnt have moved his friend in.I talked to one of my close friends last night, and he goes "why dont you two just share a room?" The boyfriend doesnt think thats the best idea right now.. I found out in november that i should find a place after christmas, then his friend moves in, insead =(
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does anyone else have any advice here?
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Originally Posted By: ashley69I talked to one of my close friends last night, and he goes "why dont you two just share a room?" The boyfriend doesnt think thats the best idea right now.. I guess I don't understand this. If you two are living together, I have high doubts you also won't be sleeping together. Seems weird to me that a boyfriend and girlfriend would be living under the same roof but yet not sleeping in the same bedroom. I know I personally could not live with a boyfriend and not sleep in the same bed as him... would just be weird.
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I know.. It doesnt make sense. When I stay over there, We sleep in the same bed. His bed is only small though, so that's one of the reasons, I guess. Also, he said he wants his own space. I don't get it...
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Originally Posted By: ashley69I know.. It doesnt make sense. When I stay over there, We sleep in the same bed. His bed is only small though, so that's one of the reasons, I guess. Also, he said he wants his own space. I don't get it... I guess to each their own, but I certainly could not imagine living with a partner but sleeping in seperate rooms.
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I know what you mean. and also, we both agreed on getting an apartment next fall. and we'll be sharing a room then, i would imagine. but i think he has plans on getting a bigger bed. its just confusing. siiiigh
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I don't know, I am confused. I'm thinking the same thing as Eddie. Why wouldn't he want you in the same room? Especially since you are in such a tight spot right now and basically have no where to go. And the small bed thing....give me a break. You two couldn't get a bigger bed? Even just a bigger mattress? Something seems shady to me Ash.
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He loves me.Were getting a place in September. He is so upset about me finding it hard to find a place to live. I love him, but at the same time im screaming in my head at him. -siiigh- i just dont like how it seems like his friend is having priority. even though he has no job, no money, no school to go to, and he doesnt clean up after himself. but yet i go over there, and i help clean. its bullshit.
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come live with me. We can spoon!
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damn... Tempting.XD
