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k - Im really relying on you guys, cuz none of my friends like me talking about this guy. its a long story.So, theres this guy, and Im pretty sure I like him more then I have my past two exs. We hungout pretty much everyday during the x-mas break, and every weekend since then. I stay the night at his house. Nothing usually goes down. He knows I like him a lot, but hes never said he likes me back. He just likes to bug me for it all the time.I stayed the night at his house last night, and we ended up having sex.. well, only for like 10 minutes because we almost got caught, but if that wasnt the case, Im pretty sure we would have continued.But the thing thats troubling me is, I dont know what was meant by it. If it was just sex, because we were both there, and were horny teenagers, or if he meant anything by it.were like.. super good friends, and we joke around about this kinda stuff, but I didnt think it would actually happen. I know he hasnt had sex since his ex broke up with him over the summertime, I just hate feeling like he only did it cuz I was there, and I was willing to. He wont say anything about whether he likes me or not, so I cant tell if it was just random, or if itmeant anything`.

lol im pretty sure it was just for pleasure. If he still hasnt told you he likes you and all of a sudden just wanted to get some; it's a clear indication all he wants is sex and not a serious relationship.

Sounds like to me, he's just looking for a lay. I wouldn't sleep over with him anymore, since you have feelings for him, you're bound to get hurt. =(

Why don't your friends like you talking about him? If they don't like him, there may be a good reason.

Ohh, okay, Its a confusing and stupid reason why they dont like me talking about him.My "best" friend liked the guys too, a few months ago.(dated him for a little while over the summer right after his whore exgf brokeup with him. Best friend and him broke up because he hadnt moved on from his ex yet)and I decided that I'd tell her that I liked him, just because I felt bad that she didnt know.So that night, over MSN, she flipped out, and told him to choose between the two of us. He "chose" me.so my "best" friend flipped out again, and now practically still hates me, and she despises him, and she told all of our friends a bunch of stupid shit about him, how hes an asshole, ect ect.Meanwhile, it was her fault for telling him to choose...Shes only like 16, and really immature about this kinda stuff.Hes 19, and Im turning 19 next month.

He isnt the kind of guy to just fuck someone, and leave it at that.
He is really a super genuinely nice guy.
He said he liked me a few months ago, but when I told him a few weeks ago how much I liked him, he didnt say anything back.
and I asked him out, for some weiiird reason about two weeks ago, and he said he doesnt like the idea of dating, because his ex was a total bitch to him(which she is) and shes kinda a whore, so I dont blame him. It was okay, because I dont think I was ready to date him anyways.. one of my friends kinda pressured me into asking him out.
Then the other day he told me that I was starting to grow on him.
so, Im not sure what he means by that. hah.

I could be completely off the track here, this is just a different viewpoint which has not yet been presented. Maybe, when he wold you that he liked you a few months ago, he genuinely meant that (by the way, what did you say?). Then, assuming you didn't say anything for a while (since you only told him you liked him a few weeks ago), he figured nothing was going to happen. So he gradually stopped feeling about you in this way. Then, you told him that you liked him, which, in turn, made him question his feelings for you again. Now, he didn't really know how he felt (he doesn't want to date you, doesn't tell you he likes you back), so he decided to have sex with you. Well, this doesn't really fit in with the whole story. Why couldn't he have just kissed you, instead of going the whole way? Anyway, maybe he has come to some conclusion now regarding his feelings for you (you are ''growing on him''), on the other hand, he may just be all the more confused.On the flip side, he may have just been using you, since he doesn't want to date you or tell you he likes you. Working a benefits system? But with some guys it's just hot and cold, you never know.Any developments?

time for a quick update..I still am unsure if he likes me, or how much he does like me. He wont say anything.. cuz I dont ask. My friend thinks he likes me. But its hard to tell... Should I just ask him if he likes me? Or wait it out and see if he will actually say anything about it?And he has this.. problem.. issue.. whatever. He Prematurely ejaculates. Only during sex though. and he actually talks it out with me, and we're trying to find some way to make him last longer. So, I know he obviously trusts me enough to be talking about this. Because its a big issue for him. I dont know if him trusting me with this is just purely for sexual reasons, or if its for any other kind of reason. We're still super great friends, even if we are having sex. It doesnt make anything awkward between us, which is a plus. but I still get this sinking feeling that Im being used. And I know I shouldnt feel that way, because I dont think he is using me. He leaves the decision to go through with it up to me, so its not like its all his "fault".I just cant be sure, cuz I've been used before which caused me to actually give up on sex completely for the sake of not being used purely for sexual reasons.. its a pretty shitty feeling to have. Its pretty much the only reason which is making me second guess the whole sex thing.

To help him last longer, you can tell him to stop for a while when he feels he's getting close. You can also try woman-on-top positions - most guys last longer that way.