A few questions

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Hi guys,I have a few questions, they are quite embarassing. But, I hope I can get some answers/solutions1. I only recently had my first intercourse experience (followed by plenty more). The missus had trouble putting a condom on. As a result I went flacid. We struggled to get it up again. What went wrong here? Is there a way i can get it up after it goes flacid? 2. After my first embarassing stuff up, i was able to maintain the hard on and enjoy my first experience. But, i can only last for 10-15 minutes. Whereas, you watch porn movies they go on for 3 times as long. The misus came 3 times, but i hope to last. What can i do to prolong the expereince?3. there was one incidence where i was flaccid and go it semi-hard; but i had come by then. Was this due to anxiety?The missus gets upset because of these problems because she feels like she is unanttractive. What can i do?

As long as you both have a good time it doesn't matter how long sex lasts. She came 3 times and you finished sounds like a good sex to me.

1. If you go soft, it will usually take some time to get it back hard. That's just the way it is, so don't feel anything went wrong. Just be patient.2. Lasting for 10-15 minutes after insertion is doing far better than usual. Don't use porn movies as your standard - real life isn't like that. In fact in porn movies they do lots of short takes, with long breaks in between while they move the camera and adjust the lighting, and it is all then edited together.3. More likely exhaustion, I would think.Tell your missus that she's very attractive and it's just the notoriously idiosyncratic way the plumbing works.

Dont let this become a problem, for either of you, spend time on eachother, and if it happens again, try and laugh it off and enjoy spending the time getting it hard again smilesthe more of a worry it is the more it will become a problem, it happens to every man at some point and i can understand why you're lady if she is even a little insecure in herself would let it make her feel unattractive but it seems that mens bits have a mind of their own, maybe if it happens again enjoy her for a while, that will enforce to her that you love and enjoy her and will hopefully give it a kick start too.......:)

thanks for the replies. i talked to her and she said we should practice more...hahahaha.

my gf orgasms easily, so i guess i am lucky.

again thanks for the replies

yes you are lucky she does, i don't cum easily very often (depends on the mood lol) and that can make the manthing feel a bit, lacking in skill LOL

You shitting me?
keep in mind i ma not just fucking around here I am serious, 10 to 15 minutes is longer than normal?
weeknights we get to bed late and sex is maybe 20 minutes to a 45 minute spurt, after all the shit that leads to actual sex.
weekends, sex can last for 2 hours of solid fucking and changing positions and what not, 10 minutes is longer than normal?
you shitting me?
where did you get this info,I am either a freak (on levels i was unaware of, I already know when it comes to sexual appetites Im a freak and I like the freak sex styles)or your info is seriously lacking in realism.
I am not talking like when your stoned, as stoned sex, fuck its damned hard to bust a nut, takes real effort and concentration to cum, I am not talking about that, I am talking about how log it takes under normal circumstances.
Now all thsi being said, it also lasts exactly as long as the ole lady wants it to, she knows how to make me finish and seconds at any time she chooses to do so.

I can't easily access full papers at the moment, but here is a recent survey. Judging by this result, I may have underestimated average time a bit:Eur Urol. 2008 May;53(5):1048-57.Premature ejaculation: results from a five-country European observational study.Giuliano F, Patrick DL, Porst H, La Pera G, Kokoszka A, Merchant S, Rothman M, Gagnon DD, Polverejan E; 3004 Study Group.Department of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation, Raymond Poincaré Hospital, Garches, France. giuliano@cyber-sante.orgBriefly, they got 1115 European men timing with stopwatches. 201 of them were diagnosed as having premature ejaculation and took an average time of 3.3 minutes; the rest took an average time of 10.0 minutes.Note also:J Sex Med. 2008 May;5(5):1251-6.Canadian and American sex therapists' perceptions of normal and abnormal ejaculatory latencies: how long should intercourse last?Corty EW, Guardiani JM.School of Humanities and Social Sciences, Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, Erie, PA 16563, USA. ewcorty@gmail.comINTRODUCTION: Lay public perceptions about how long intercourse should last are discrepant from objective data on ejaculatory latencies. This may be problematic as the subjective interpretation of latency is a factor related to perceived distress with length of intercourse. AIM: Quantify the opinion of expert sex therapists as to what are "adequate," "desirable," "too short," and "too long" intravaginal ejaculatory latencies. Method. A random sample of members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the United States and Canada was surveyed. MAIN OUTCOME MEASURE: Intravaginal ejaculatory latency, in minutes, for four different conditions: coitus that lasts an amount of time that is "adequate," "desirable," "too short," and "too long." Results. The interquartile range for the sex therapists' opinions regarding an "adequate" length for ejaculatory latency was from 3 to 7 minutes; "desirable" from 7 to 13 minutes; "too short" from 1 to 2 minutes; "too long" from 10 to 30 minutes. CONCLUSIONS: Therapists' beliefs about ejaculatory latencies were consistent with objective data on ejaculatory latency and were not affected by therapist demographic characteristics such as sex or experience. These results suggest that the average sex therapist believes that intercourse that lasts 3 to 13 minutes is normative and not prima facie worthy of clinical concern. Dissemination to the public of these results may change lay expectations for intravaginal ejaculatory latency and prevent distress. These results may also be beneficial to couples in treatment for sexual problems by normalizing expectations.

even ten minutes, fuck man, ten is a lunch time quicky! I much prefer the standard of having the time to do it right and taking the time to do it right!if I couldnt muster a half hour to an hour Id just assume skip it, if I wanted that fast action bust a nut bullshit Id just jerk off.

wow...Grvtykllr how long did it take for you too last that long?another, question;sometimes i can get really hard sometimes it just won't like 80%. Is there a reason for such difference?

There can be so many reasons - tiredness, stress, illness, and so on. But I think it can also be just because your hormone levels and your horniness don't stay constant, but vary on an irregular cycle.

Good question....
Personally I think Chance is bull shitting just a little.. But he is a pretty horny stud!

I don't think I would want to last as long as Chance, at least most of the time... I've got to much other shit to do.

Its really not hat hard, if ya bust a nut shortly before starting sex, that second ones harder to get off, a third takes even longer.when I say sex, I also mean all of it, foreplay, oral, and standard fucking.