Ive decided against getting a present for my brother.He has done and said the most hurtful things to me this year and I dont see the point on spending a single penny on him.This week has been the most depressing week of my life.. to the point that I feel like im suffocating whenever I drive towards my house, i cry and i get an extreme feeling of depression and hate. I was so depressed thoughts of suicide came through my head.. not that I would ever do it.. but the thought of doing it came up.All of these feelings come from him. He is so hurtful.. he really thinks that he can treat people like shit but they must do him any favour he asks. He treats everysingle person in this house like shit, including his own wife.Its sad.he blares his music and listens to his TV sooo loud.. but when I do it it's a problem and he runs off and tells mommy and daddy (he's 25!!!!) This year he's said the most hurtful things to me and has really brought me down. Hes called me fat, ugly, bitch. Infront of my dad, boyfriend, our friend, and his wife he called me a "fat fucking piece of shit" because I proved to him I knew more about Hockey then him.. and it was just by naming who won the stanley cup in the last 3 years! Hes sad and hes hurtfulWhen i knock on his door to see if saysha is there its "what the fuck do you want?"this isnt even the least of it.. So what is your opinion on this? Should I be a bitch and get him no gift or should I allow myself to get walked on and give in and buy him one?Im torn.. the only gift idea ive had was a bag full of coal saying "thanks for all your kind words this year"
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Christmas present.
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In the words of my own brothers... your brother... is what we call a bitch ass nigga. And he needs to be slapped senseless. I thought my little brother and I had it bad but THAT is friggin ridiculous. You of all people do not deserve the bull he puts you through. Why is he married? What's wrong with this wife?? And he's 25?? He needs to grow the freak up! What gives him the right to speak to you like that in front of your love ones and your friends? Do your parents say anything about it? Let me get 5 minutes with him I will tear his ass up!I'm sorry... I could talk crap about your ungrateful and disrespectful brother but that doesn't help you at all which is the main point.First of all Steph, you are an amazingly beautiful, sexy, intelligent young woman and a great friend. You don't deserve that. Words can be hurtful but don't let him hold power over you. He's probably insecure about himself. In my opinion I don't think you'd be a "bitch" for not getting him a gift. But I also don't think you're allowing yourself to be walked all over if you do get him a gift. He doesn't deserve anything, so in that case you wouldn't be a bitch if you didn't get him anything. But if you do you're not being a wuss or anything you're basically saying "you're an ungrateful, immature dumbass but I'm the bigger person". Who knows, he may even appreciate it. I hope things work out, babez. If you ever need to talk I'm here. Don't let him ruin your Christmas.
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I think you should get him a nice suttle lump of coal. It gets your message across and then if he says shit about you not getting him anything you can say oh yes I did. Lol
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buy him a box of tampons
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Sometimes the only thing you can do is disassociate yourself from family. That doesn't mean you have to waste your energy being mad at them or hating them it just means you go on with your life and let them do the same and do your best stay away from them. That's the way my family operates. They used to be so close, all of us. Now they hate mom and me. Don't really know why, gave up caring a long time ago. Just got on with life. I wouldn't get him shit. I think it would be like buying good will.
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give him a hug lump of coal
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o.O u never told me abt this hugsgrr i m angry at ur bro....how could he do this to u!! I agree with everything Abi said above. I soooo wanna...grr ok >.< not gonna have violent thoughts either verbal or physical...need to keep my cool meditates to calm down chirtmas gift for him....um...get him a diaper and write "GROW UP!...U BIG BABY!!" on it with a marker or wrap a big lump of coal for present.
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I had it out with my brother, and his new wife a couple years ago.I still sent a christmas gift.Course I shit in a box, left it on the porch when noone answered the door.This year I wa told to be nice at the christmas party as he and his wife would be there, I explained fuck them, I will not be nice, and we all know whats going to happen sooner or later.With that I told them to go fuck themselves, I will not be attending the party on christmas eve, instead Ill be home with my wife and kids and smoking a fatty, getting ready to play santa.Its what Id rather be doing anyways.Keep the shit in a box idea in mind though, I understand it went over real well when they returned home to find it. I only wish it had been summer weather and baked to a great stink rather than frozen to the cotton liner and kept the smell down a bit.
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Sorry for your troubles . Why does your brother hate himself so much and what is wrong with your rents to let him act this way he sounds very mixed up and unable to cope with his life he needs medical attention , Please try not to take his childish action on yourself you are much better than that and You should stand up for yourself,looks like no one else will in your family, can you move live somewhere else limimt the contact?
