Wow I haven't used this site in a long time!!!Basically this is another one of those 'am I gay' threads. I'm 19 and have had sex with one guy before in my life and I have always identified myself as bisexual. I am not out however.But a few weeks ago me and a lad mate when on a night out and got very drunk. At the end of the night we ended up kissing.I have always thought that I was only really emotionally attracted to girls but this guy has completely screwed my head up. It's like it has thrown everything I thought I knew about myself out of the window and I'm 13 again. We haven't spoken about it because he's straight and I don't want to ruin our friendship but the whole thing has, basically, fucked my head up.I don't know what exactly I'm hoping people will tell me but I just need some advice about how to feel happy with myself again. I'm pretty confident nothing will happen between us ever again but I just can't stop thinking about the whole thing.It's just hard because I'm not out so I can't talk to any of my friends about this.Any help given would be much appreciated. Cheers.
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I think I need a bit of help cheers
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what makes you think that he is straight if you guys kissed?
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Well, they we're drunk... Alcohols fun like that...(OP)Do you think that you could have an emotional attachment with him? Maybe it's just a sexual thing (lust). If you want to be happy, then don't think about it SO much, I'm not saying not too, deciding this is a big thing for anyone, but don't delve on it. And if you do need to talk about it with him, talk about it. Friends are there for that, whether you make out with them or not. Maybe he wants to talk about it too, but he thinks the same things that you do.There's no one panacea for telling if your gay or not, you'll know after time, and experiences whether you are or not. You're the only that can answer THAT question, but yeah, if you think you need to, talk to him about it, or if you don't want to, and just want to let it go, then do so. If you're comfortable with yourself, then it'll all be okay.God, why have I been wanting to put apostrophes in everything I type tonight? Yay spell-check!(And I wasn't making fun of your drunkenocity.)
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Well I think he's straight because other than that one night stuff he's said about gay people and that kind of just made him seem that way haha.Thank you for your help. My problem is just that I thought I was confident about my sexuality but because I think i have gotten an emotional attachment after that one night (so lame I know) it's kind just thrown everything out of balance.I think the lesson is not to get that drunk again because of all the problems it has caused haha
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Originally Posted By: Nintendo_1990I think the lesson is... Well yes, there is that...That's no problem, happens to all of us at one time or another. And like I said, I'm sure he'd understand if you needed to talk about it. That's what friends are for.(Even if you're talking to them, ABOUT them. )
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Saying bad stuff about gays doesn't necessarily mean someone is straight - sometimes it means they are fighting what they see but don't want in themselves. However it does suggest that even if he is bi he wouldn't be ready for a relationship.
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Originally Posted By: Ineligible
Saying bad stuff about gays doesn't necessarily mean someone is straight - sometimes it means they are fighting what they see but don't want in themselves. However it does suggest that even if he is bi he wouldn't be ready for a relationship.
That's what I thought. Plus if it has messed my head up this much then I don't even wanna think about how much it might have done his head in too.
Cheers again guys.