*background information. Bear with me, this does sort of contain some relationship issues along with some other decisions.So the Post-secondary Institution that I go to has a paid internship program that it is known for and a lot of students are enrolled in it. This means that students have schedules that can have them working in the fall/winter and schooling in the summer (the reverse is also possible, but its not up to the students to decide).Anyways, I'm not in that program so in a few more weeks I'll be done another year of college. I'm not sure whether or not I should continue schooling in the summer, or using my 4 month break to get a job.Here's what I like about getting a job:1. I'm almost 20 and I've never had a job so I think I need some work experience if I am to ever obtain future jobs.2. My best friend is back in my hometown so I will be able to hang out with him.3. I'm not sure if I will enjoy stressing out over school when the weather is so nice, not to mention that I am eliminating my break.4. Get paid to work as opposed to paying to go to school(very nice, but not THE most important thing to me) Here's what I like about schooling in the summer:1. Some people argue that getting a job will make your summer dreadful because of long hours at work + commute so you won't even have time to enjoy the nice weathers.2. Some college friends I have are staying3. I can have a lighter courseload in a future term due to taking more courses4. With the recession (on top of me not having a lot of technical marketable qualities), I'm not guaranteed to be able to get a jobBut the biggest reason for me to stay is that there's this girl I like (you probably saw this coming). She is in the above mentioned internship program so she is here for this coming summer and fall, but will be gone again for winter and following summer. We're really good friends but she's giving me a lot of mixed signals to make me question whether she only thinks of me as a good friend or a potential boyfriend.Truthfully speaking, she is the main reason why I'm even considering staying for the summer. I just wanted some opinions on what I should do. I think its pretty clear that without factoring in this girl I like, going to work for 4 months would be the wiser decision. Is it foolish to set myself back to chase after a girl who you're not even sure if she definitely likes you more than just a friend? Even if it were to work out, it would work out for at most 8 months before becoming a long-distance thing for the following 8 months.I'm just very inexperienced with this because I'm getting older now but have never dated, and I guess my judgment is also clouded because of desire to find and be with that special someone.Thanks for reading
What would you do if you were me?
- You said that the internship program provides a paid job, so that should offset your tuition costs and provide you the work experience. Many employers make permanent job offers based upon an intern's work. They are able to let you go if you don't work out as an intern instead of hiring a total unknown off the street.2. You may develop a new best friend and hang with her. You won't know if she is that special someone unless you give it a chance.3. You're close to finishing school and entering the world of work. There are no summer breaks there (other than a short vacation.) You might as well start to get used to the idea.4. Having a lighter courseload in your final years might allow you some time to work parttime if the company with which you intern would offer such an opportunity.5. Your best friend should always be there for you. Your college friends will scatter after graduation and you will never see most of them again.6. Take the internship if it is offered. You are correct that in this bad economy, jobs are in short supply. Summer only jobs, that are basically fill ins for regular employee to take vacations, are in even shorter supply since there are fewer regular employees to vacation and many companies are just requiring other regualr employees to take on more short term and cover for those on vacation.7. If this relationship develops, the 8 month long distance thing will be difficult but not impossible. I did it for several years. It makes the time together even sweeter.Good luck. Let us know haw things work out.
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