My ex bf is still hanging around my place and doesnt wanna let go of me......thats 1 guyMy mom tried hooking me up with a guy who was crazy about me 6-7 yrs ago. And now that guy is jumping up and down and is glad about it.......he has called up a dozen times today........thats the 2nd guy.My ex is furious about it and the other guy is furious that my ex is still hanging around me.Both are cussing at eachother.......I am feeling stuck in the middle of it.I told my mom a thousand times not call the other guy cos I dont wana break his heart again......he is a nice guy and I like him as my friend but I dont love him or wana marry him. But she didnt listen to what I said and now I got problems not only with my ex but also with the other guy.I am on the verge of screaming at my mom.What should I do to make both these guys shut up and leave me alone?.......(You dont need to answer this.)I am leaving this country tomorrow but both guys have my phone numbers and they are gonna annoy the hell outta me.Why did my mom do this to me?My question is how can I make my mom understand that I dont wanna hook up with anyone. She doesnt seem to understand my problems.
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Problem with 2 guys
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What I would do, is just drive that point home, again and again. Even if she gets mad at you, tell her that you wanna take care of your love life, and you don't want her to. It's your life to live, not hers. You'll find the right person for you, not her.
If she still tries after that, then just ignore her, or if some guy manages to make his way through the cracks, then let him down soft and easy, maybe just say that "I like you and all...blah blah, but my mom tried fixing us up and I'm not really looking for a relationship right now." - kinda thing. Much like Will&Grace, maybe you should write a speech..:grin:
And if your feeling stuck in the middle, say that you won't go out with either of them again. That should stop the guy that's like a puppy over you from yelling at your ex, and who knows about your ex...:grin: Threaten a restraining order if you don't like him that much? OR if you wanna stay friends with him, tell your current that that's the way it is , and you won't change your personal relationships, for someone that's not TOTALLY committed just yet.
Perhaps this helps?
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Originally Posted By: LuvMyCatsif some guy manages to make his way through the cracks, then let him down soft and easy, maybe just say that "I like you and all...blah blah, but my mom tried fixing us up and I'm not really looking for a relationship right now." - kinda thing. Thats what I am doing right now cos my mom aint listening to anything I say......on this matter alone. So I often end up having to give a speech to the guy its hard for me cos I really dont wanna hurt anybody.......and my mom tried hooking me up with the same guy who I had hurt before (had a fight cos he wanted me to forget my bf and stick with him instead) and have been feeling guilty about it for quite some yrs.(I didnt do anything but still felt guilty cos I couldnt bear seeing a guy pleading to make me accept him and it was very hard to turn and walk away from one of my ex-best friends, it hurt me a lot)I cant get a restraining order in my country I dont have any current bf btw.
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I can understand the pain that you're feeling, I've felt it too. It's hard, but sometimes you have to work through the pain, you know?That sucks, but like i said, if you really need one.And then in that case, the guy that's jumping up and down for you.
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Thanks Catz :smile:
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Well.... We both know which one is a definite no! Because hes a stupid idiot. You need to tell your ex boyfriend that you're over him and he needs to stop pestering you! Obviously you didnt mean enough to him that you dated for over 10 years and he NEVER told his parents and freaked out when he thought they knew.The other guy on the other hand is one of your good old friends. I really think he will understand if you tell him you're not happy or interested. I wouldnt be surprised if he told your mom to lay off the pressure!!Just be honest and follow your heart hun.