My boyfriend and I will have been together for three years this Saturday. When we first met in college he was very tall, thin and he worked out a lot. For the past two years we we go to the gym and work out together, walk across campus to classes, and eat campus food with the occasional mac attack. In the year since we've graduated he's gotten a desk job and in his free time he sits on his butt and plays video games with his roommates. In the year since we've graduated he's gained at least ten pounds, some of which is distributed in love handles but most of which is hanging over his belt buckle as a beer gut.I am a very active and fit individual, I watch what I eat, I work out at least six days a week and find it hard to sit still for more than a minute or so without something to do. I will freely admit that I am vain because it's the truth. It's not that I don't love my boyfriend for who he is and not what he looks like, if I only cared about his looks I wouldn't be in such a quandry.I've tried gentle nudges that he lift some weights, do some crunches, take a jog etc. when he gets bored or when he complains to me that he's gotten fat. He said he didn't want to work out on his own, that he needed a gym but he couldn't afford it. So I found a good yet cost effective gym within walking distance to his apartment. And still nothing.I surely thought he would come around when he tried on a pair of his pants for a friends' wedding a month before hand and they didn't fit. I thought it was going to be a wake up call and he'd spend the next month getting into shape. No. He went out and bought a new pair of pants that were two sizes bigger.I've tried gently nudging, being supportive and setting an example. Aside from the aesthetics I'm also concerned about his health sitting behind a desk all day and eating fast food for every other meal, having a glass of whiskey every night, chugging energy drinks. It's like he's still in college but without the responsibility of grades or the privlidge of parents paying for it.I'm not bailing out on this, if I was I'd just pack my stuff, tell him he was fat, and walk out. How can I get him to see that he needs to loose weight and get in shape again?
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Beer gut
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Show him what'll happen. Energy drinks alone provide, what, x examples?And actually, if he likes fruit, I just found something that I thought was awesome for me, but could help you, too. Blueberries! I share this with the rest of you, too!
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He is built just like his dad and his dad is skinny with the exception of looking like he is six months pregnant. As a teenager he was always underweight and needing to gain weight so I don't think he knows what it's like to need to loose weight and having a restrictive diet.What exactly did the blueberries do? I am a little skeptical.
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From Cats link; A new study shows rats who ate a diet rich in blueberries lost abdominal fat -- the kind of fat linked to heart disease and diabetes -- as well as experienced other health benefits like lowered cholesterol and improved glucose control even if their diet wasn't otherwise heart-healthy.
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He needs a partner. Not you, but another mate he can go with.Honestly, the best motivation you can have is a good mate to workout with. The gym is where men get their gossip on.Someone from work would be good, if he can find a gym nearby and bring his gear to work, they can head there straight after. He might struggle at first, but once they've been doing it for about a month it should be routine.