A little background:We've been friends going on 11 years now, back to kindergarten. We've been through a lot together, my parents splitting up, his dad dying; all this before 6th grade, mind you; his getting in trouble all the time even though he doesn't care, the start of high school, and all kinds of other things that best friends do while their growing up.But lately, it feels like we've been drifting apart. He's not doing so good in school again, he's not on drugs anymore, thank God, but he's changing, and I don't think it's good. I'm more of a happy, carefree, take-it-easy, laid back, calm, happy-go-lucky, academic--kind of person. He's almost your typical teenager, rude(ish), crude, immature, he's not patient, he's very competitive, he isn't grateful for what he has (he get lots of money from his mom, even though their kind of poor(ish)...he's had ≥2 xbox-s,) he takes his health for granted, he doesn't see wrong in anything he does, thinks it's funny when (a new development) he gets kicked out of school and into an alternate....I don't know you guys...before, it wasn't as big a deal, he even stopped hanging around with some of his friends last year because they didn't necessarily treat me right, and not be that friendly with me.He's starting to get into that crowd again, and in terms of that alternate school, I'm afraid for him. He's the kind that thinks he's bad-ass, but only kind of is, it's more of the 'disrespectful' bad-assery, and you can't be that way in an alternate school, that's how you get sent to hospital, esp. w/ inner city, poorer families that have kids that go there.Off that subject....it almost seems like we don't mesh anymore. We don't really like the same kind of movies anymore, the same music; I just don't feel that connection anymore. I don't want this to proceed in the direction that I can foresee it going. I still want to be friends with him, but, I don't know.Then there's the whole fact, that you have a blow-up at this person (I'm sure all you cats have had to deal with this too) then you risk all the things that you told that person in confidence, being told to other people, as in gossip, retaliation, or whatever.I just don't know what to do here folks....opinions?Sorry so long.
Me & my best friend
Sometimes people just grow apart, and there's probably little you can do to prevent it.You might find that years or decades later you might find yourselves coming back together.
I went through the exact same problem. We were friends from pre-school through to grade 7. He was a good kid, then fell in the wrong crowd and turned into the "bad-ass" type kid. I went with him for a while, but then realized that I didn't like that, and it wasn't me. I'm like you. I'm quiet, happy, whatever. He's loud and a bad-ass. I haven't talked to him in almost 4 years. There's definitely times where I wish I was still friends with him, but for the most part I'm happy I went the way I did.