I've been masturbating for about five years now, and I have never had problems getting myself excited until the past few months. Since I got into a relationship with my (first) boyfriend, I can only get excited when he's fingering me. Now, no matter how hard I try and no matter what I think about, nothing. It has to be by his hands and it's getting frustrating. There's nothing wrong with having him do it for me, but it's not very fair to either of us. I can't always expect him to be willing to do that for me, or for him to always be there when I'm horny. I don't know what my problem is. I'm a virgin, and not yet 18 - I don't own a vibrator or dildo, so I've made due the past four years with an electric toothbrush and a cyndrylical tube. Generally I pump the tube in and out and keep the toothbrush spinning on my clit. Maybe it's from the use of the toothbrush for so many years or that I need new, exciting techniques? Help! It's driving me crazy. I haven't gotten excited by myself in almost six months!
Maybalee
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Having difficulties masturbating
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Masturbation can get boring when it's the same ole routine thing. More than likely your boyfriend provides that extra bit of something special that puts you over the top. The trick is going to be to find that thing when it's just you. If your used to the high intensity of the toothbrush, which is now just boring to you, it may take a little time to work your threshold back down to something not quite so intense. Stay away from the toothbrush and experiment with other methods of masturbation. The experimentation may be enough in and of itself to give you that extra thrill to get you to reach orgasm. Whatever you do don't obsess about it. If something doesn't work move on to the next and keep the interest alive. Make the journey the game and don't just focus on the orgasm.
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I thought it may be the intensity as well at first, but then I feared that it was just that I had been spoiled by physical presence. It's just not the same as having another person there. How about techniques? Go as crazy as you wish, I'm just looking for something new. I'm open to anything.
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As far as techniques I'll let the ladies handle that. As a guy, I doubt I could be much help. You might have a look here.
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Get rid of the tooth brush and get a real one.
Also.. get a female orgasm cream. You can get one from the stag shop or fantasia
[http://www.fantasia.ca/magasinenligne\_shoponline/en/index.html][0]
it makes it easy to buy it.
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"Also.. get a female orgasm cream."I had no idea there was such a thing. What does it do?