So my "boo" and I decided to try the "just friends" phase after I had my mental brake down Saturday, Sunday, and Monday. It was pretty horrific. So now I'm trying to slow things down and take everything a step at a time. He still calls me "baby" and whatever and slips up with certain... things. Anyway, he himself made the statement "just because we're friends, doesn't mean you won't always be my baby girl". You get the idea.So anyway, last night we got into a tiny argument about drinking and smoking. It was stupid and I fell asleep during mid conversation. But it's all good. He said his friends are taking him out to the club to go drink and smoke. Now... I've never been to a club, but when I think about clubs I think about girls dancing and guys grinding all up on them. And then a one night stand. I know... pretty ridiculous. But that's just how my mind works. I'm a little paranoid right now. And I told him that if I find out he did something it's over forever. And I was dead ass serious. I've already had one issue with him messing around with another girl. So rather than "stealing" his fun I'm just letting him know the deal. He told me that "just because we're friends doesn't mean that's a free pass for every other nigga". I understand, that's how I feel. I'm trying not to be paranoid. Cause it's not like "oh we're just friends". I don't give a damn. The thing is I feel like if he does do something he's not going to tell me till like a month later and I'm gonna be so pissed that he waited so long. But then I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Thing is, he had already been talking to some girl before and I didn't even find out from him I found out from her. So I'm a little iffy. Idk...
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Pretending like I don't care....sike
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I'm very sorry to hear about the breakdown, Abi. 'Just friends but you can't see anyone else' is not an arrangement that can last for too long. But at the moment your health is the most important thing.
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Abi, You are WAYYY, WAYYY WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY to smart, beautiful, and incredible for a guy like that. If he cant be real .. and step up to the plate and be a man.. he isnt worth your time.What makes you think that he isnt going to go to the bar and do those things if he went behind your back and was talking to some chick? He didnt even have the balls to tell you!!Get out while you can girl. I know the drinking and smoking scene isnt you. Find someone closer to your age who will respect you and wont let you go when you have a mental break down. Or just do you. You're going to be starting school in the fall and will have alot on your hands there.. a relationship can sometimes get in the way of the important things. When you're suffering and need someone.. you should be able to rely on your significant other.. not have them back off the relationship.. he should be there supporting you and being your shoulder to lean on.Think hard and weigh the pros and the cons.. if you find that the cons outweigh the pros.. get out!!
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Ditto.
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Same here.
Good advice Steph. :smile:
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How did things work out???