This is really difficult to figure out for me, so I thought I'd get someone else's thoughts.My best friend has been hooking up with this girl for a while, he never saw her as anything more than that, but she let herself fall in love with him. I somehow got sucked into it, and was mediating it, eventually getting he to talk to her, and her to begin to accept the truth and move on. But my conversations with her (i've only met her once before all this mind you) would get pretty detailed, and was kinda a turn on.Now the other side, I've been with my g/f for over 2 years. I really love her, and physically everything's great. She was my first kiss - first everything else. I could see her being my only kiss - everything else. That thought kinda scares me. I wish I could just take like a month off from our relationship, to experience what it's like to hook up with someone, have sex just for the physical benefit, stuff like that. I know she certainly doesn't share that view.So going back now, the girl noted in the 1st paragraph said flat out, that if I were looking for a meaningless hook up, she's be up for it, but i was like no, that'd be weird. But then later, when I was a bit too horny, in the middle of some "personal time", I started texting her, about how i kinda want to take up her offer, and she seemed really keen on the idea.She's not that attractive, and if word ever got out to anyone about it, I could lose my g/f and my best friend so the stakes are really high, but the temptation is just as high...I know the right thing to do is drop this, cheating is very wrong, and it's dishonest, etc. but I dunno, we've been dating 2 years, I can only imagine this feeling growing as time goes on...What to do..
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Weird tempted to cheat situation...
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The grass tends to look greener on the other side of the fence, but doing this would be a big mistake. Things you think are private tend to get around.
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One question: Are you willing to pay the price and sacrifice everything for this?
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If you find that you are tempted to cheat, I think it's pretty safe to say that you should get out of your relationship. I know when I had those feelings in the past, eventually I realised it was because my relationship wasn't right for me!
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don't cheat. Even if no one ever finds out, you will know and you will feel like shit. Trust me on that, I wasn't always a good man.
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hmm, yea, that's the response I expected to get.I feel like it's more just that I've always had this thought in my mind, but this time I went for a risk and told someone, who was interested in it too.Thinking about it, I don't really think I could go through with it. For some reason I feel like I could do 3rd base, and not feel guilty or anything, but if I were to kiss another girl, I'd feel very guilty. Somehow, kissing is more sacred and personal than further things...Also, interestingly, I feel like this also makes me want my gf more. I don't know why, but its like after finding out there's someone else out there who wants me, I want my gf even more, almost like I'm translating my fantasies with the other girl, into actions with my gf. It's a weird spot, can't last...
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well, stay away from the bases too. You can fantasize about the other girl when you're with your g/f. Your own mind is your private domain. Personally, I've never been able to fantasize about a different person, it just doesn't seem to work.I know how good it feels to find out someone is interested. I'm tempted frequently. Sometimes I feel like a recovering addict with beautiful crack-pipes dancing around. But I know, I can't go back to being that cheating man.
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When you have sex with somebody you're kind of forming a bond. So having sex with that girl is pretty much connecting you in a way and when you have sex with your girlfriend you're pretty much connecting your girlfriend to that girl.... if I were your girlfriend I'd feel extremely disgusted with you.You need to figure something out.
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What to do.. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?Drop this sketchy bitch and never talk to her again.I guess thats the best solution if you want YOUR RELATIONSHIP to continue!!!!!Is your girl really the right one for you if you would tell another girl that you want to have sex with her!?hmmm...
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"Drop this sketchy bitch..."LoL I like that, Steph.
