Hello,I am 19 years old and I had sex for the first time on this last New year's, we had sex a couple times through the next few days and I could NOT cum during sex. She was definitely hot and I thought it was because I was drunk but being sober did not change anything..A few days later, I had sex with another girl and also, I could not cum!! she was a much better fuck than the last girl and still nothing.. she then gave me head/jacked me off and I cummed pretty fast... (also, when i masturbate, I can make myself cum in seconds if I really want to)To this day, I had sex with 3 other girls including my girlfriend now and I am frustrated with this 'problem'.. my gf doesn't care too much but feels kind of bad, I dont wan't this to be an issue for the future so I need some help!!Why can't I cum?? and what can I do to fix it!!??Also, as a virgin I jacked off alot, probably once a day, sometimes twice and now probably once every 1 or 2 days, I tried not jacking off for about a week and then having sex and nothing!! (without a condom)It feels good, I get the sensation, I feel like im into it but it doesnt wan't to finish, it just stays at that point!!!!I believe it's because I jack/(ed) off too much, does anyone know(possibly from experience or reading somewhere) if this is reversable!! I won't jack off for the rest of my life if I have to(as long as I have a girl to fuck lol)!! thanks!!
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Can't cum during vaginal sex!! help!!!!!
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Welcome to A2A, atticus123. It could be that your penis is used to masturbation feelings that are considerably different from vaginal sex feelings (especially, for example, if you are fairly rough), and you may have to train yourself back by practice and time.I'm sure it is reversible, but it may take some time.
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I promised myself to never jack off again until I cum during sexis that smart or should I just cut down or what do you guys think?I will see my gf in around 11 days so thats the ETA on the next time I have sex, I will not jack off until then see how it goes...does anyone know what I can do before/during/after sex (some position or excersice) that will either prepare my penis for cumming or give it a better chance?thanks for the info! I really appreciate it
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I don't know that I would go an entire 11 days. Given your age that length of time may not be necessary depending on how much you normally crank it.As far as positions are concerned I find doggy style to provide the most stimulation to the sweet spot on the underside of the penis. Try and have sex as you normally would, in a position that's good for her and if nothing is happening switch it up and come in from behind. See if that helps the sensations at all.___________________________________________Now that I think about it, I don't know how well the rear entry thing would work. It works great for me but I curve down at a pretty sharp arch.
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Tell me more about how you masturbate. I have had the same problem over the years, but found a way around it by varying my technique.
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i used to have this same problem until i started to focus on my partner more then myself. One day i finally cummed and honestly worst day in my life. Now i cannot even have that rough sex as before because i cum in like 5 minutes ugh
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A great deal of the sex is determined by the mind. Arousal in the mind starts the ejaculation process. All that is happenning is that there is anxiety or something preventing you from ejaculating during vaginal sex. It may even be a worry about girlfriends falling pregnant.Relax and stop worrying about ejaculation. just enjoy the sex and soon you will be coming.
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OK I did not take the time to read other replies, BUTI did experience something similar my first time(s)I expected to orgasm super fast the first time I had sex, however due to differance in feeling and that wearing a condom reduces sensitivity I lasted about 45 minutes, until I tried durex fetherlite condoms(I THINK) (either way, condoms for extra sensation, thinner and slightly easier to break, but feels a lot better, just be careful about putting them on)but I could only get enough sensation from doggy style to achive climax, hope that helps, sorry for a lil crappy spelling
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Try this:Try not jacking off for a while. Your body will go through a stage where you get really turned on. Because of built tension. You would know what it'll feel like. Have sex and you should cum. This worked for me.