This seems like a really silly thing to be complaining about, and I really cannot talk to my friends about it because they would not understand.My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over three years, and we've been sleeping together for about that long as well. Recently, in the last six months or so I have not been able to last as long as he does. It's not that I don't enjoy it, I loose track of how many times I orgasm each session, and it's not that I'm not wet enough. I just get very sore and am sore for a day or so afterwards.My boyfriend is very understanding and doesn't seem to mind because I help him finish nonetheless, but it bothers me.What can I do to last longer during sex? I've tried googleing it but the only things that pop up are for guys.
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How to last longer during sex
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How long do you last for? Perhaps your boyfriend just lasts unusually long. Perhaps there is no real problem, since he doesn't seem unhappy.
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I usually last from around 5-15 minutes. And it doesn't bother him, but it bothers me.I feel like I can't please him anymore. Even though he comes away satisfied, my pleasure is dimmed from not being able to finish with him.
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I don't understand.. You said, "I loose track of how many times I orgasm each session". But now you say yuo can't finish with him. I don't get it.
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Hi,This is not the usual problem where the guy does not last long enough for the women.First try to use more lubricants to avoid friction that can be causing you to get sore afterwards. Relax and do not worry because your boyfriend will soon start pacing himself to you and should learn to climax at the same time as you. You are starting to drive yourself into a performance anxiety problem which will only cause more problems and will eventually cause you to withdraw from sex, so try relax and encourage your boyfriend to finish a little quicker. Possibly use more foreplay on him to drive him closer to orgasm before penetration.
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Was thinking the same thing about the performance anxiety - just relax and roll with things and hopefully it will just get better or the two of you will fall into a satisfying and comfortable routine. There's a lot more pleasure going on here than just reaching that moment at the same time...
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He gets me off numerous times but then I have to get him off manually after we've stopped having sex.
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This sounds really odd, but it's not a dryness issue. Even when I'm sore, I'm still wet. And we've been having sex for three years now and this change happened within the last few months.And because he is able to last for a while, I don't feel like I should hurry him along just because I cannot seem to last for very long.We both use a great amount of foreplay before sex, and I've tried increasing that but it still doesn't seem to have any effect. I am becoming increasingly frustrated as the situation persists and I can find no information online, and I know my friends would be unsympathetic.