I'll try to make these stories as short as I can until people ask for specific details, assuming they want any. Not that story one will be the longest and if you want a quick read, just read the other 2.Story 1. Drama with a close friendI'm a folk dancer. My friend often complains nobody asks her to dances. I invite her, she tells me yes. later on she tells me she doesn't know if she can go because she remembers she had plans with a guy she might like. So I'm talking to this guy because we're friends too. She got brought up in a casual conversation and he told me that things came up and they weren't going out this weekend.So I live close to 80 miles from the dance center and my parents hardly keep cash, and need to know before we head to the dance center to pull out cash, so I needed to know if she decided she was coming then so I asked her mom in a message. later that day the girl messaged me back cussing me out about stalking her and shit.I had found out later fighting with her, she didn't think I was trying to sabotage her plans, but out of no where for no reason she though I just had added him, specifically to check if she really had plans that day or if she was lying to me, and said while she wasn't even if she was it's her right as a girl to tell a white lie to spare someones feelings (Bullshit nobody has a special "right" to lie, a lies a lie and if it's not life or death there's no real reason for it) What strikes me odd is we're close friends, she's never lied too me, she never acted like this when she said she was IN LOVE with another friend of mine, but she's freaking out over this guy she barely knows that she isn't even 100% sure she likes. And for the record the guy added me 2 weeks prior to this.So anyway later her mom goes on. "Well she had every right to freak out on you, because you made her feel uncomfortable, it doesn't matter who was right and who was wrong, you can't win this one, you made her feel uncomfortable and you need to apologize." Maybe I'm missing something, but why should I apologize? SHE made a ill-rational assumption based off NOTHING considering her biggest concern was that I added the guy specifically to see if she really had plans not bothering to check, or even ask me anything, considering he had added me 2 weeks before this happened and we had been talking as friends for awhile. So basically SHE made herself feel uncomfortable and blamed me. In what way exactly do I owe her an apology? Giving the fact she basically insulted me by claiming I'd go through all this shit stalking her, based off of a simple question of, are you going with me because I need to know if I need to pull out the extra money, because this guy forgot to tell her...Story 2. The F-Word.So this girl I've been friends with for half a year stopped talking to me recently, I found out it was because she was grounded, but heres how I find out. I see her on facebook. I go to send her a message and she goes offline. I click on her profile I find out she deleted me.I ask her why on a text to her phone and her mom explains she's been grounded. And she says and I quote. "I thought you were a good person when I met you, but I guess I was wrong, because I was searching through your facebook, I found you said the F-word.And I replied. "Excuse me, but will all do respect. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I don't screw around, and you're going to judge me off of a word?" And she replies. "It's all well and good that you don't do that, but it doesn't matter, I only want my daughter(age 17) around good Christians, and despite what you do or don't do, you said the F-word and it shows your true characteristics."I replied with. "Do you really think outside of your church your and her friends don't use coarse language?" Her reply "I'm aware my friends may at times use words like these, but you posted it publicly(By which she means within my group of friends I guess since facebook is private and only my friends can read.) You're not a good person and I won't have my daughter around people like you."So it pretty much ended there, so I opened my face book over a 2 year span. I've said fuck 6 times, twice quoting a song. I checked over the span her daughter added me I said the word ONCE and guess what =D Before it the message says. "Warning this rant will have coarse language, if you are easily offended do not read this AND further more to even see that I said fuck you have to click "Read more"So in short good ol Christan mom took her daughters phone, broke her privacy by invading her facebook, went to my profile, snooped around on it to find a post posted several days prior and to read a basically censored post, just to judge me, which by the way the bible says not to do. But me I'm the right hand of the devil because I said fuck.Story 3 The best friend (nice and short)So this also happened on the same span as the first two stories ironically. And it's very short but deserves a facepalm.I talked to her mom and asked if she'd be around the day of the dance because I was feeling shitty and could use a friend. Her mom said she didn't know but to message her and tell her to call me later.She pops up later that night on facebook saying, it's too late to call, and what was up? I explain my situation and ask if she'd be around for me to go see before I go to the dance. No response.she pops back up at 6am asking me whats up, I explain and ask, no response. I send her a damn message saying. If you have time to see me or want me to come over call me or message me back before 4:00PM so I have time to make it to your house before the dance.(Additional information both her and her mom said I HAVE to ask for permission to come over.) No message, no phone call.The next day. A message, ON THE MESSAGE SAYING CALL ME OR MESSAGE ME. Saying. "Oh my God are you alright, I'm worried sick about you, I waited and waited and you never showed up."I love her to death and I'm glad she made time out of her busy schedule to try to see me, but holy shit. How can you be that dense.
Day by day I lose faith in humanity.
1. Quote:I invite her, she tells me yes. later on she tells me she doesn't know if she can go because she remembers she had plans with a guy she might like.To me that's a problem straight away. If you accept an invitation you don't then back out of it for any reason less serious than illness. It's just bad manners. It's appallingly bad manners to leave an invitation to a dance dangling and uncertain because you might get a better one later.2. There's nothing you can do with mothers like that. Eventually the daughter will probably break free of her influence, but it might take some time.3. Unfortunately people are that dense. Most people don't read messages right through to the end, it seems, or at least don't take it all in. If a question in a college exam asks for one thing and then for a second thing, a large proportion of students doing it will only do the first.
I have to agree with Ineligible on all of this, I've known people like this and fortunately try not to surround myself with them. People can be complete and utter idiots and liking boys or girls or giraffes, whatever it is, often send people into more of an interesting mindset then being in love with the person. You would think it'd be lesser than loving someone, but, again, people are idiots. shakes head About her mom, well, moms are that way sometimes, and it might be speaking more to her protectiveness of her daughter than to the fact that you said f* somewhere in a rant on facebook. This might have just given her an "excuse" to tell you why she doesn't particularly like you, or to blame it on you for her own caution for her daughter. Though, like In. said, there's not much to do, only hope that the daughter becomes her own person and won't stand for invasions of the sort.And the third. I love the third one because I had to shake my head at it. I know exactly how that goes, I have several friends that way. You gotta love em for making time, but smack em for being so stupid as to not read. There's nothing to do about them but shake your head, laugh, and try to go on with what you need to tell em.Don't give up, this represents only a very small portion of people, and however stupid they may be, aren't the whole of mankind.