I know many say it's genetical but recently I listened to a radio moderator who is gay and he was asked by a caller if being gay was genetical and he said no he said it's a choice. I can tell you I was really stunned by that but since this guy is gay I think his answer has some credibility compared to somebody who's not gay saying that it's a choice. I also don't know if that really applies to all gays. I think that psychology also plays a role and that many who are gay were raised incorrectly or had problems with their father or mother or something like that but there are definitely gays who choose to be gay.
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Is being gay a choice?
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After typing this and rereading it, I come across as hostile and pissed. Which I am but not at you, so please don't take it that way. I'm pissed at other things not you or your question.No. Just because someone is a commercial commentator and has an opinion, despite what they think and what they want you to believe, it doesn't mean their views are more credible than the unheard masses the world over.Here's a little experiment if you believe it's a choice. You, go choose to be gay for one year. This means living openly as a gay man. Your friends, your family and anyone close to you has be told you're "gay." This means openly and publicly expressing affections for your boyfriend. You don't have to have sex with anybody but you do have to pursue romantic encounters just as you would being straight. Or better yet go be gay in some parts of the middle east and see how that works out for you. Then ask yourself if you would choose such a life. Do that, see how "easy" it is and get back to me on whether you would ever "choose" to live that way.All that aside and what really pisses me off, it doesn't fucking matter whether its a choice someones makes or not. This isn't fucking, God damn, Iran. Who someone chooses to fuck, who someone chooses to love is nobodies God damn business. Ya know why, cause it doesn't involve you, Glen Beck, Pat Robertson or anyone else. Love is between the people in love and only the people in love. The same applies for screwing. If seeing two guys hold hands makes Preacher Pat feel uncomfortable or a little squishy in his shorts that's nobodies problem but his. You don't tell two people they can't love each other because the Preacher's panties are getting damp at the thought of two men together. That's horse shit. Now here's a little lesson in critical thinking. When you hear this kind of shit or any kind of shit anywhere you can't take it at face value. This guy was a radio commentator, right? What you've got to remember is his job is not first and foremost to impart information, hell I don't think that even comes in second or third with most media. His first responsibility is to sell advertising. And don't give me that shit about non-profit. They solicit funds from organization for mention on their show, not much better. They way anyone in the media does this is to cull an audience from the herd. The easiest way to do this is to tell that audience what they want to hear, most people don't like their preconceived notion challenged. The host reinforces the audience and audience can go through the world with their blinders firmly in place staunch in their belief that they've got it right. The fact this paid gay was there to tell them what they want to here means nothing. He, like everyone, was selling an agenda. Whether that agenda was future work in the entertainment industry or a political agenda doesn't matter. All that matters is he got his bucks for saying this, the corporation that owns him got their coin, and the advertisers hocking their shit during his commercial breaks got to sell you their latest turd-o-matic. In short, think critically of everything you hear. Always ask yourself why would someone claim this shit, whatever that shit may be. And short of scientific validation take their claims for the anecdotal stories they are.
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Hello, I also don't really think that it's always a choice because why would one choose something which might have negative consequences? But this guy isn't a commentator. He has a late night radio show where people call and discuss all kinds of issues not just sexual things and then he gives advice and one time a woman calls with some problems and then before the end she quickly asked him because she said she has a gay member in the family wether being gay is genetical and this host who is openly gay said no and that it's a choice and this really stunned me.
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I think that pretty well fits the definition of commentator, but whatever. He's still selling a product, entertainment. He's in the business of salacious, controversial entertainment for the sake of ratings. Besides, this is still anecdotal and not supported by any serious clinical psychological research. His single experience doesn't speak for the millions of gay men and women the world over. He's one man who said something, that's it.
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But can one really say being gay is normal and how it should be?I think that when a person is gay there's always a reason or trigger for it. Maybe something in the childhood. Personally I don't like the thought of 2 men having buttsex with each other it's scary somehow. Even if there's a nice gay couple in a restaurant or something and they act so civilized and so on but you still know when they're home alone they ram each other in the butt. There's simply no way around this. I find this thought hard to bear. It's like when you have a hetero couple and they sit there nicely dressed and eat but when they're at home they do totally dirty stuff then this would also scare me off. I'd rather imagine that they only do civilized sex positions and keep it clean and not do anything which was still illegal a few decades ago. I mean why are things allowed today when they used to be illegal? Are we smarter today than we were in the past? Is today everything better? I don't think so.
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You are really incredible...How about a man having buttsex with a woman?
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That's definitely also kinky but not the same as a man ramming another man in the ass. Just thinking about it makes me feel not so well.
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Then quit thinking about it. Your thoughts are your problem and how they make you feel doesn't dictate how the rest of the world has to act.
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It's not the same?? is it illegal?
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I can only speak for myself and I don't think it's good.