I had to move out of my old place and wait two weeks to move intothe new place. This hold time I didn't get to see my boyfriend. We got in an "argument" about whether or not me being a Christian and him being a Atheist would be a problem. When I got back into town and we hung out, I look back and things have been different. First he lost his wallet because of his dad and was bad about it. He got mad that i wasnt commenting, but i didnt want to say the wrong thing, so i didnt say anything. I finally did and it came out wrong and he was annoyed by that. Recently we got into an argument, I don't understand why he got so angry. I mentioned I wanted to have a place out in the country to vacation, and the second was about me saying I was interested in staying with the Amish and seeing how they live, mostly how they make things. He thinks people in country are basically stupid, the country and the Amish are boring. He gotreally angry about. Now I feal like he looks at differently and he's really turned off by me. We haven't kissed or anything in a while. He kinda gave me a half hug this morning so I don't. I thought maybe he was in themood last night, but that was a negative. I don't know what to do, or if we'll ever have the same relationship. I feel like he doesn't like me anymore.
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Boyfriend Trouble
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My thoughts are this.. It could be a problem.
My gal now was not brought up in church like I was, but her family and her do believer there is God and devil. She just had no idea about being saved, why Jesus was crucified and extra. She believed that if she was a good person she would go to Heaven- It don't work that way. Now she is learning...
I don't know what your guy's beliefs are. Some Atheist believes there is a God and others don't. If he denies the existence of God I'd say you two aren't gonna make it too long. I don't know there could be a chance you could but I just can't see it.Now, I personally think it's already over by what you said- not kissing, a half hug. A half hug is just a hug you do because you don't really want to hug but fill obligated to hug. That's how I see it anyway.
I know I'm a odd guy but the only way I'd not want to kiss my gal is if I didn't care for her anymore. I can barely go two days with out kissing her - no way could I go 2 weeks with out some kind of lip contact, unless I really didn't give a crap about her anymore. Even if I was stressed out, worried, or whatever I'd still want contact with my girl. I don't know I just sense red lights here.
I could be completely wrong - but you have my thoughts on this.
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Thanks CR.
I think he's making small problems into big ones to avoid the real issues we're going to have. My big fear is that if our relationship becomes long term religion will be an issue, but I've just decided for once to ride this one out...just see how it goes and let God guide. I'm tired of worrying about things that are beyond my sight. I always think ahead and get caught in the fantasy of how I wished things were. I just want to think about the present and what's going on now. Right now he's being very weird. I want to talk to him and for once not hold anything back.
He's just the closest I've come to the real thing. I feel like we have a real connection and I just like being near him. Now he's just turned so negative about everything.... -
I talked to him the other day. After I said I didn't want him to hate me or dislike me, he said he could never do that, that it wouldn't happen. He said the things we discussed changed the way he saw himself, not how he saw me.... I don't know what to think. Maybe the negativity he's feeling about himself is showing outwardly. I don't want him to feel bad about himself or me.
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Sometimes when someone turns on a light it allows you to see yourself clearly in a mirror. Often people don't like what they are seeing. It's not your fault. You can only clean your side of the street; you can do nothing about his.
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Thanks.... :smirk: I hope things turn out well.
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I think he's going to break up with me, again. We just got through chatting. He expressed doubt about us, that he's afraid of commitment, bad at relationship, selfish...he was just throwing up all this stuff. It made me mad, but mostly very sad. I just want to try, to not be afraid of pain and be in a relationship. I want to love somebody. I always get so close and something happens and we never become anything thing. I feel the universe is slapping me in the face. I don't want to break up with him, even in all his faults I still like him. I like being around him so much, but lately things have changed (like I mentioned in the beginning of this thread) and I knew he was having these feelings.
I just don't understand why he would want to do this again if he was having doubts. The same issues we talked about today, we talked about last year when we shortly coupled and then broke up. Nothing's changed. I just want him to try, I mean that what couples do when they really want to be together. Maybe he doesn't want to be with me that much.... :frowning:
I know now that I can loved and beloved. I'm not some reject that nobody wants. It's possible for me. I won't die alone.
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I did get the impression from your first post in this thread that the two of you might not be well matched. Of course, two people will never have completely identical interests, but there seemed to be so much difference in your interests.Of course if people aren't compatible, it doesn't mean anything bad about either person's worth as a companion - it just means they aren't right for each other.
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I'm tired of companions, I like him a lot. I doubt if I could hang around him and not want to be is girlfriend (If we were to break up). Before we got back together and we would just hang out, I couldn't stop not being with him, or touching or kissing him in a very non-platonic kind of way.
My love life seems so hopeless. It's so hard to find someone that knows what it's like to have my kind of problems (relating to anxiety, depression, and family).
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I hear alot from people that a some couples arn't compatible. It's like what a friend says to try to help make sense of a someones discourgement from the relationship. If in your mind you don't feel the need to continue further, I guess you can put that perspective on it. But I like to think the pain is part of the game and if your keep making the decision to stay together(the both of ya's) and that all things can be worked out than thats a relationship that will Pervevere.
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Thank you...we shall see. As of today, we haven't broken up.
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It's official; we're over.
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Im sorry hun :frowning: Its hard but I promise you it will get better.
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Thank guys. I really wanted to be with him...he "seems" to be taking it better than me....
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Aww, I'm sorry. hugs
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Thanks.