I hope this is the right forum for this... I lost my virginity over two months ago and have been having sex on a fairly regular basis since that time. The first few times (obviously) hurt, but even after that pain went away, I'm still not getting any pleasure out of penetration. In fact, I find it rather UNPLEASANT. I just feel... pressure, that's it. It almost feels like having a pap test to me. We've tried several positions, lube, etc, and have had no luck. I'm still willing and he appreciates that, but he wants ME to be able to enjoy it as well.Please, any advice or possible explanations would be appreciated.
No pleasure during sex
Welcome to A2A, Nightangel.Your experience is not uncommon, unfortunately. Many women don't get much pleasure from penetration, and clitoral stimulation is essential, before or during.
I haven't had sex yet, but fingering feels the same way for me. I'm still feeling pain though, pressure and poking....It's like I'm being stretched and sometimes a sharp pain as if my boyfriend has hit a nerve. :frowning:
I used to be able to finger myself and reach orgasm, but now nothing. I'm only able to climax from clitoral stimulation.
I think there are also some problem with your sexual drive, this will lose if you continue not having pleasure with sex, why you don't try to use some sex toys hope it helps you back your sex desire.