So my gf and I have been together for a little over a year. Just recently she reconnected with a friend..a guy friend that I've had issues with before. Anytime he talks to her it's as of he's dating her, her calls her these names and crosses the line in most conversation. And my problem is is that my gf continues to talk to him even knowing his alterior motives. She says they're just friends so I believe it. But any chance she gets that she's not around me, she's on the phone with him. They call each other several times a day for about ten minutes each time..they text all day and the second she ends it she deletes everything. And he's trying to call her and text her all night long.I can't tell her who she can and can't talk toAnd I can't just accuse her of things i have no proof ofBut any time I try to talk abou it she turns it around on me not trusting herWhen all I want is the respect of not having to question her. I'd never put her in that type of situation. Him acting the way he does, makes me believe Shes replaced me in certain aspects of our relationship and I'd rathere leave her then sit here and play dumb and get hurt. What do I do? I don't play that if I don't know it won't hurt me game because I have big plans for this girl, I don't need someone that's in this half assed. I need full commitment and dedication and she says she is, but she's worrying me to death with this stupid situation
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I'm realllyyy confused
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It sounds like you are at a different stage of committment than she is and both parties have to be aligned for a relationship to work.If it were me, I'd back off and see what her real feelings are.
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Doesn't sound like full commitment to me...
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Like the others have said, it doesn't sound like full commitment. What you need to do is tell her it's making you feel uncomfortable and ask her to stop. If she doesn't stop, then it's clear she is hesitant to respect you and your feelings. If it gets to that level, I would consider moving on....