I am new here guys so i will try to make this as short as possible, i just started college about 1 and a half month ago. Things were going pretty good i would say, till i started noticing this girl in our class. I mean we would never speak, i used to see her joking around and talking. I really liked the way she was, i mean she had this spark in herself. I wouldn't lie for a second, i have been told by many that i am an attractive looking guy and i basically know many people from my college. And firstly she wasn't the type of a girl, i would prefer to date but something happened. Everytime in class, i used to just observe her and finally i fell for her.What made me think she liked me as well ? Well we used to share eye contacts across the class and she used to gaze at me. As i said we never spoke but eventually, i got more envolved in her group and started to talk a bit and after receiving all those signs i finally decided to talk to her a litte more by buying her a drink. The next day i decided to confront her but i wasn't sure whether she would really go out with me or if she really liked me or not. So i decided to confront our common friend, and our common friend told me that she has a boyfriend for more than 3 years now and is currently have a long distance relationship with him. Really broke me down and i told our common friend, no i don't like her at all, as she herself was wondering did i like her and i said no. I didn't know what to do, i am so stupid...But i knew for some reason, i felt that we had something, i would never believe it in this World, if she hasn't felt anything. I knew i had to speak with her but this made it so hard for me. She always looks at me when i come in class, she always has this smile when we talk plus the eye contact is always present. She has nothing to say to me as if she is shy but she isn't amongst her friends so why me ? She would never start a conversation with me. I just don't know why. I seriously fell for her and i just don't want her to think that i never tried to ask her but i want to but how. I never find her alone, she is always with her group which are her girl friends.But these last 2 weeks we have being socializing a lot, i mean we went to the bar together with our common friends and had some fun and we did some more things extra. I know she looks at me and i do the same with her. But i never had the courage to say something to her.So the main problem is this, yesterday we were at this bar, and all of a sudden one of my class fellow shows and she basically ignored me a lot. I don't know why, i mean my class fellow has a girl friend and she knows about that but they were having a good time and she was kind of ignoring every thing i was saying to her ? While i was talking to her, she didn't even bother to listen and she always nodded at the things i said and looked me in the eye, what is wrong with her ? I don't get it, she would never fool around me, joke with me extra but when she is around that class fellow, i just wonder maybe she feels safe or something ? Going back home, we had to catch the train, i walked really slow, ruined my day really, was drunk and thinking all the night what happened, i had to talk to her but i couldn't even do that. So they all got in the train so she called me to ask where i was, this is not the first time, she even called me when i left our group earlier at the bar to go outside to have a smoke. And then we had this longest 6 - 7 seconds gaze ever, as we were the only 2 awake and not saying much, and all of a sudden she just looks into my eyes. What is she trying to do guys any idea's ??? Please help me, this is to much, i need to do something or its screwed up.Now today, i knew she was pretty much drunk, but i texted a message saying that if she and the others wanted to go out and have a nice meal in the evening and it has been 6 hours straight and no response, before all this she used to reply me under 2 minutes (Acutally it was a group message, so i did not directly send her this as a personal message)... What is happening ???
A girl i like but i just can't confront her Help:/
Welcome to A2A, Jack.She is confused. Pure and simple. First year of college would have you be still rather young. It's not uncommon for someone young to go through several relationships before settling down. In fact, it's healthy.She is weighing the thoughts of a bf "back home" and someone (that's you) who is readily available. Now this is complicated by the fact that you are not sending vibes that you are as eager as she would like.What to do? Continue being present in the group and let her know that you would be interested in more than being friends. Since she hasn't told you about the bf of the long distance relationship. So maybe this is true and maybe it isn't. Once you let her know that you would like to date her, she will tell you if it is or isn't true. You then adjust accordingly.