hi 24 year old male dating 20 year old female. Shes had self esteem issues since well before we started dating both with her weight and looks. She is the most beautiful girl ive dated before. shes 5'1" and weighs 100-110 and calls herself fat and ugly. I thought mayb she would grow out of it all but its been 9 months now and the same story as day one. she doesnt take my compliments and tells me im lieing but then when random guys she talks to at work or on facebook compliment her she gets a smile and tells me i never compliment her?!?! she takes full advantage of me and i do everything for her and when i ask her to do something for me its some huge ordeal. she often tells me if i just keep my mouth closed we wouldnt get into so many arguements. Im head over heals in love with this girl and feel unappreciated and taken for granted. She has lots of control issues i think which is why she treats people that way and the fact she will starve her self for days or weeks, like it puts her in control. she has no life other then going to work,coming home and sleeping till i get there and then we hang out. I pay for everything when we go out, i always buy her small things like sodas, food, lotto tickets and sometimes bring her stuff to drink at work if im out early. i do everything for this girl and she will stiill have the nerve to tell me i dont do anything for her!!!! and thats when i get pissed and lose my cool. id like some input from other girls that mayb act like this also or have some of the same issues. what can i do to help make things good between us other then "keeping my mouth shut"
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My girlfriend has me puzzeled
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also in the nine months weve been togeather there has only been a total of mayb 6 days we didnt see each other, she is very obsessive and has no other friends besides me
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Welcome to A2A, bladegreen.
It won't be what you want to hear, but it seems to me that this is part of her personality and isn't going to change, whatever you do. I think she is going to be misery and you should get out.
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I agree. If she was going to change, she would have done so already. I have a saying: some people are just not happy unless they are unhappy.Getting out is going to be easier the sooner you do it.
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ya not quite what i wanna hear lol but i kinda know that i need to get out, its hard when this girl has become intergrated into every part of my life. its also hard because i recently lost my sister and cant be alone i need some1 around me. if she could just change to be more appreciative of me id marry this girl